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Build a Better Me


Have you ever thought of continuing to improve yourself after school? All of the years of education required to achieve the level we desired were spent with effort, dedication, and commitment.


After our formal education, what do we do next? Is it time for rest and relaxation, or is it time to continue our education? Where do we learn to be great parents, communicators, and neighbors? Where do we learn how to create and be a part of healthy relationships?


We focus on education as a profession, yet we need to educate ourselves on how to do life outside of work. Some are more equipped to prosper in social settings, yet many of us have struggled in our day-to-day relationships and seem okay with the results.


I'm reminded of the book by Tim Sanders, The Likeability Factor, in which he emphasizes likable people succeed. This seems true in our culture. For the most part, it is easy for me to see this principle, yet it is inconceivable to see myself as unlikeable. Even though I present in most cases as likable, I think I would like for people to know I am always that way. Yet, there are narrow windows of time that I present as unlikeable, which truly can be out of my awareness. [Blind Spot] Sometimes I feel bad, tired, hungry, and out of control of life's circumstances and the unlikeable me will come on stage.



The unlikeable me is the me that I don't want others to see and messes up my social reputation. Am I the only one who thinks this way? I have worked hard for many years to recognize and shift out of those situations where I lose control of my thinking and actions. I must maintain continuous vigilance to prevent going out of control.


It has everything to do with emotional well-being. Being in charge of my emotions is the key to building a better me. Recognizing and shifting when I get more emotional than intellectual is another key to building a better me. You have probably heard me say that our emotions and intellect compete for the same available brain resources. I operate best when my emotional level and my intellectual/spiritual level are equal.



How about you? Where do you need to employ more education? Where do you see you can prosper in building a better you? Where do you find this kind of education?


Look for the blind spots.





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Blind Spots in Relationships

What I don't know I don't know about Myself





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