For the longest time, I was unaware that pride was a blind spot for me, intricately linked with my ego and emotional survival.
Dominated by my need to be right and in control, my thinking was driven by a compulsion to demonstrate my expertise. Little did I recognize that others around me feel wrong when I'm right and others feel controlled when I'm in control. Wow, I don't like to feel wrong or controlled. [Blind spot] Yet I put others in that experience.
Pride is that emotion associated with a heightened sense of self-esteem and satisfaction derived from my accomplishments or the accomplishments of those I am closely connected to.
Pride has many meanings. I can be proud of my family, team, or achievements. However, when pride causes me to appear arrogant, haughty, elite, or holier than thou, it becomes a significant problem. It was natural for me to compare myself to others and boast about my accomplishments. Little did I recognize the impact it had on myself and others.
Today, I focus on humility, a personal quality characterized by a lack of arrogance or an absence of ego. It involves recognizing and accepting my limitations and imperfections while also valuing the worth and contributions of others. Unlike pride, which often focuses on my self-celebration and sometimes self-importance, humility is more about maintaining a realistic perspective of my importance in relation to the broader aspects of life. Humility involves an accurate and occasionally sober self-assessment, acknowledging strengths and weaknesses without undue emphasis on either. While humility may include recognizing one's limitations, it doesn't mean a lack of confidence. Instead, humble people possess a quiet confidence that doesn't need to be loudly proclaimed; they are secure in their values and capabilities without being boastful.
Being humble also means being open to new ideas, feedback, and possibly making mistakes. Humility allows me to be teachable, adaptable, and flexible. Better yet, it helps me to laugh at myself.
How about you? Can you replace some pride with humility?
Watch for the blind spots.
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