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Self-built glasshouses of pain

We put up walls to keep the pain out and wind up cementing the hurt in.

We keep emotional pain inside and build walls around us thinking it will keep us safe, secure, and protected.

We learn to expect little from others, and we settle for not expressing our emotions because talking about them makes us feel vulnerable.

We may have felt betrayed, loss of trust, or have had our hearts broken.

As these experiences happen, we begin brick by brick to build emotional walls of self-preservation.

Whatever our reasons for building them, they are good ones.

These preemptive walls serve an important purpose at first—they help guard us from any further onslaught while we are tending to the wounds that require immediate attention.

These walls initially constructed to provide a safe place, if left unchecked, unintentionally become our own self-built glasshouse.

Any possibility of connecting is exchanged for the illusion of protection.

It hurts to hurt, no doubt.

But when we allow our emotions to become “walled off”, we pay an even heavier price. It is caustic to any meaningful, supportive relationships, or feelings of purpose and direction.

When the walls we build go from keeping us safe to isolating, trapping, and keeping us from reaching out, we have to think long and hard about why we have built them up, and decide if they are doing more harm than good.

“The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy.”

—Jim Rohn

Walls don’t protect us, they keep us locked in a struggle of our own creation.

Let’s put our guard down, chip away at the walls, and let the light in.

Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.

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