Jerry Clark
- Jun 21, 2023
- 2 min read

What are we not talking about?

This is a relationship-building question that often needs to be answered with more honesty. I often witness what is "not being said" as a major contributor to the demise of a relationship.

Relationships drift off course due to poor communication. Communication is essential in any relationship, and when it declines or becomes less regular or meaningful, it can lead to feelings of distance and disconnection.

As we grow and evolve, our priorities and interests may change. If both parties in a relationship prioritize different things or pursue different paths, it can create an unconscious sense of overlooking the necessity to keep communications fresh and ongoing.

Busy schedules, demanding careers, and other responsibilities can consume significant time and energy, leaving less room for nurturing relationships.

Emotional changes, such as personal growth, shifts in values, or evolving beliefs, can impact a relationship. If individuals don't address or communicate these changes over time, this can cause a "gradual drift".

Sharing experiences and activities help foster a sense of connection and shared interests. When individuals stop engaging in these activities or don't create new ones, it can contribute to a "silent drift".

Open and honest communication, quality time together, and mutual effort are key factors in navigating and overcoming poor communication.

So, the real opportunity in a healthy relationship becomes talking about what is not being said.

On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being excellent, what value would you give communications in your significant relationship?

What are you not saying or asking that is left unspoken?

Watch for the blind spots.

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