top of page

Have to vs Get to

I was remembering a story from a few years back; I was picking up a friend from his dialysis treatments.

When I got there I usually sat in the waiting room with the other dialysis patients.

I began to meet many of them because they came at the same time on Wednesdays.

I started to hear their stories.

“I can’t empty my dishwasher anymore.”

“I can’t reach the cabinets to put my dishes away.”

“I can’t vacuum anymore or I sweep.”

“I hate it when the wind blows, my trash cans go down the street.”

This was the beginning of a major paradigm shift for me.

As I sat there and listened, I began to look at my hands and feet.

I did not like to have to put the dishes away. I did not like to have to empty the dishwasher, vacuum, sweep, or chase the trash cans.

This experience caused me to think about how equipped I am; what a privilege it is to have health, strength, and ability.

At that moment I shifted from 'I have to' to 'I get to.'

I 'have to' is a drudgery. I 'get to' is a privilege.

I 'get to' empty the dishwasher, sweep and chase the trash cans.

It is my choice to be involved and engaged in life.

If I think of it as a gift that I 'get to do something,' life becomes easier.

Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.

Feel free to share your thoughts, like, and share these posts.


Sign up to publish your comments.

Login with your email, this gives permission and authentication to publish your content on the site.

Click "Sign Up" and login with your email and confirm, once you are signed in you will not have to do it again when you return. It only takes a sec and I want to thank you for your feedback.

If you haven't already gotten your copy of my new book, it's available below.

Blind Spots in Relationships

What I don't know I don't know about myself

8 views0 comments


bottom of page