

Blind Spot: Love Has to Be Seen
I can tell somebody I love them and still leave them wondering whether they matter to me. Sometimes the difference is where I put my attention.
If I keep looking at my phone while someone is talking, my words may say, “I care,” but my behavior says, “Something else is more important.”
Jerry Clark
Oct 71 min read


Blind Spot: When Attention Leaves
I can tell somebody I love them and still leave them wondering whether they matter to me. Sometimes the difference is where I put my attention.
Jerry Clark
Oct 51 min read


Blind Spot: Broken in a Heartbeat
Trust can be broken in a heartbeat, and it takes time to rebuild.
For me, trust seldom arrives with a grand announcement. It grows when I do the little things I said I would do. I call when I promise to call. I listen when somebody needs to talk. I admit it when I get something wrong.
Jerry Clark
Oct 21 min read


Blind Spot: After the First Five Minutes
Have you ever noticed that some people can walk into a room and win everybody over in five minutes? They have a good story, a quick smile, and a way of making others feel at ease. I enjoy being around people like that.
Jerry Clark
Sep 302 min read


Blind Spot: Small Choices, Big Damage
When I hear the word betrayal, I tend to think of something big. An affair. A secret that changes everything. A promise was broken when it mattered most. But relationships at home and at work can also be damaged by smaller choices that are easy to explain away.
Jerry Clark
Sep 281 min read


Blind Spot: Going Quiet
Here is what I have learned. People contribute where they feel safe, respected, and valued. They are more willing to bring their ideas, energy, and creativity when they know they can speak honestly without being punished or dismissed.
Jerry Clark
Sep 251 min read


Blind Spot: What People Are Really Saying
After years of counseling, I have learned that the problems people bring are seldom as simple as they appear. The angry husband may fear his marriage is slipping away. The quiet wife may have stopped talking because every conversation becomes an argument. The defiant teenager may be carrying anxiety he cannot explain.
Jerry Clark
Sep 231 min read

