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In 2017, Hurricane Harvey struck our area as a category-four hurricane. Wind and flooding were catastrophic. Our church opened as a Red Cross disaster facility for 150 people. At one time, there were over 400 refugees in that facility. I was there as a Stephen Minister to provide care and comfort to these displaced families and individuals. I noticed on my rounds a man who was very short and stocky. He was covered with tattoos on his entire body, including his head and some on his face. He looked unapproachable, but I knew I needed to check on him. He greeted me with a smile and a firm handshake as I approached him. It is not easy to share my blind spots. Here is a judgment I regret. I find a natural inclination to categorize and judge others. Our brains are wired to make quick assessments and snap judgments to navigate the complex social world. However, this tendency to categorize and judge can be misleading and often leads us astray. One of the most significant issues with judging and categorizing others is that it oversimplifies their complexity. When I label someone based on their characteristics or actions, I overlook the depth of their experiences, beliefs, and emotions. This oversimplification led me to stereotype and assume things about this man that were false and unfair. [Blind Spot] After introducing myself to the man, I found a very soft and gentle man. He was fascinating to listen to. His history was troubled and full of violence. His early life was about survival, and he didn’t have a chance to go to school. He had turned his life around and was married and had two children. After sharing our stories, he asked if he could pray for me as I worked with these refugees. Wow! How many times have I judged and not allowed myself to encounter someone different from me? How many misunderstandings and judgments have I allowed to keep me smug and comfortable? I have passed judgment on to the rich and beautiful as well. The Big Playbook gives us clear insight on this, “Do not judge by outward appearances, but judge with righteous judgment.” John 7:24 Conversation is my best way of getting to know others, not by physical appearance. How about you? Have you been as guilty as I have been of judging others without knowing them? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate you reading, commenting, and sharing these posts. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book today. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #bekind #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #counseling #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #judging #judgingyou #judgement #Godisgood #dontjudgeme #judgenot #communication #mindsetiseverything #toastmasters #businesscoaching #successcoach #dailyinspiration #betterme

I often look at what and how others do and say things that I wouldn't. At times, I get confused and wonder why they do or say these things; after all, doing things my way is the most practical, productive, and efficient. Why are they starting from this spot? What does he expect to gain by doing it that way? Why did they use those colors? How will they get to the end going that way? These questions and worries get me in trouble at times. It is so easy for me to see and say things according to my thinking. I need to remember there are many ways to do something. It is easy to think that everyone sees things the way I see them. Oh, how I forget how God has created us vastly different. And for a reason. [Blind Spot] Ouch! We all have a perspective that meets our standards, yet it is not the perspective held by others. If everyone thought the same, we would miss out on the beauty of the human experience. Moreover, diversity of thought is the bedrock of innovation. Embracing diverse perspectives enriches my life and helps me evolve as an individual. After all, when individuals from varied backgrounds and different perspectives collaborate, they bring unique ideas to the table. These diverse viewpoints often lead to groundbreaking solutions and advancements in various fields. I've learned to practice empathy and active listening instead of suffering when others don't think like me. Engaging in respectful conversations with people who hold different beliefs has helped me grow intellectually and emotionally. This story has another aspect to it. People who are pushy and forceful can be too much for me at times, so there is a limit. I have some people in my life who have different perspectives and behaviors that I find challenging to relate to and learn from. I find myself pulling away from them. It is about incompatibility, and if I allow them to impose their thoughts and behaviors, I will feel bullied. I will not be bullied. How about you? Is it easy to allow others to have their opinion? Is it easy to set limits for those who violate your values? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate you reading, commenting, and sharing these posts. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book today. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #counselingworks #leadershipdevelopment #controlling #thinking #wednesday #WednesdayWisdom #wednesdayvibes #dailyhabits #betterme #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #different #GodsPlan #God #wearedifferent #difference #uniquelydifferent #uniquelymade #mindset #toastmasters #bekind #dailyinspiration

I often encounter something that stops me in my tracks. It is so easy to get derailed. When my plan doesn't get implemented, or I get ambushed along the way, I sometimes want to give up or go into my fight-or-flight mode. It isn't easy to see a new future or direction. Often, I allow my emotions to get the best of me. It is only natural to feel disappointed or distracted during this time; I can't see the future. At one time, a traffic light on the way to my office was terribly congested. I found a back road that allowed me to skirt around the light. One morning, I took the shortcut again, and when I got to the street I was looking for, there was a policeman with three cars pulled over ahead of me. Man, here I am late already, and now I have to face this guy. My mind raced to being late, my insurance going up, and I have an excellent driving record, now I will blemish that record. Nothing indicated this was a private road. I had every excuse ready and why I should be given a warning at most. When he finally made his way back to me, nothing I said stopped him from writing profusely and with a smile. He said, “Tell it to the judge, have a great day.” Man was I fuming. Injustice, unfairness, unreasonableness, and other things rattled in my anxious mind. I got to the office and took care of what I needed to do to catch up. It began to dawn on me that I could not do anything but follow the process. The outcome? No ticket and probation for six months. It’s interesting how, in the moment, my anxious brain took over and masked my intellect. [Blind Spot] Of course, this depends on the severity of the circumstances. Small things allow a swifter recovery. When I encounter significant issues, as quickly as possible I ask myself the question, "So what…now what?" This question allows me to focus on gathering facts rather than analyzing issues using my emotions. How about you? Can you employ this mantra for your benefit? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate you reading, commenting, sharing these posts. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book today. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #mondaymood #mondaythoughts #mondaymotivation #betterme #bettereveryday #blindspots #successcoach #successmindset #counseling #selfimprovement #mindsetmatters #mindsetiseverything #sowhat #fightorflightresponse #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #choicesmatter #relationshiptips #responsibility #bekind

Parenting can be one of the most blissful or challenging issues we face. The balance of juggling responsibilities, decisions, and emotions can sometimes be one of the most difficult tasks in life. The outcome of making decisions for our children today might be absent for years. One common challenge is when the parents allow the children to divide them. In healthy families, parents are at the pinnacle of the family. They are in charge and are the decision-makers. Ideally, they are in sync and share common goals and interests for their children. This doesn't always happen. Children are naturally resourceful and observant, quick to notice the differences in their parents' opinions, attitudes, and reactions. This innate ability can sometimes lead them to exploit these differences to their advantage. When a child wants something that one parent is more likely to grant than the other, they may approach the more permissive parent first, presenting their request with sweet words and innocent eyes. This is a game children learn inherently, an age-old issue that is not taught yet it continues to be practiced as if it were. I call it splitting the parents. I hear, "Go ask your mom or dad." This is when that parent is busy, distracted, or even disinterested. One parent tends to be stricter, while the other tends to be more lenient. I observe the stricter one becomes, the more lenient the other becomes. This is circular and can create a severe imbalance between the two, resulting in a new problem that is unrelated to the child's role. This issue may morph into parental discontent, creating a whole new problem. It will appear in their demeanor and have an effect on their relationship with the children. Coalitions between parents and children can cause a terrible imbalance in the family. Splitting the parents is in children of all ages, yes, even with adult children. Remember, the coalition in healthy families is between the parents who remain unsplit by the children. Parents who are united show their children strength and confidence. Are you balanced as parents? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate you reading, commenting, sharing these posts. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book today. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #bekind #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #counseling #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #communication #parenting #parentingtips #ParentingJourney #mindsetiseverything #toastmasters #businesscoaching #successcoach #dailyinspiration #betterme

If anyone has ever had control issues, it has been me. The paradox of going out of control to gain control is a hidden contradiction. For me, having authority is a fundamental human desire. In the past, I tended to exert control over the people I loved, my environment and any situations I found myself in. I can navigate life's uncertainties with confidence and security by having self-control. However, there are moments when this desire for control is not available to me. Exerting control over others in a relationship causes them to feel controlled, and hence out of control. When I am the one who is being controlled, I don't like it at all. Being in control of others causes uncertainties with their confidence and security. It can become an oppressive force, leading me to wreak destruction to their spontaneity and creativity. [Blind Spot] Trust is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, and to gain trust, I must allow vulnerability by letting go of the need to control every aspect of the connection. Ironically, I strengthen the bond by embracing vulnerability, realizing that love and connection flourish without excessive control. It took me many years to recognize this blind spot for myself. There is no telling how many people I have chased away in my life. Because control was a blind spot for me, I would rationalize, minimize, or justify my position when someone attempted to call it to my attention. This was also a form of control that was hidden from me. I was doing things that were showing up as counterproductive for me, and I didn't know it. [Blind Spot] I have learned that I can only control myself through personal growth, attention to feedback, and the desire to build a better me. By doing this, I can exert influence over others, but I do not control them. What a relief it is now to yield control to others and promote confidence and learning even though others I love may make mistakes. Indeed, it is essential to be ready to protect others from disasters to avoid danger, terrible harm, or self-destruction. How do you deal with control? Would any of your loved ones say they feel controlled by you? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate you reading, commenting, sharing these posts. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book today. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #counselingworks #leadershipdevelopment #controlissues #control #controlling #thinking #wednesday #WednesdayWisdom #wednesdayvibes #dailyhabits #betterme #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #toastmasters #bekind #dailyinspiration

Blame has existed since time began and has played a vital role in the downfall of relationships. The blame game started in the story of Adam, Eve, and the snake. This age-old story illustrates how blaming others has been around forever and can be highly detrimental to the health of relationships. In the story of Adam and Eve, when confronted by God about eating the forbidden fruit, Adam immediately blamed Eve, and Eve, in turn, blamed the snake. This knee-jerk reaction of shifting responsibility onto someone else demonstrates the tendency to dodge accountability. Much like Adam and Eve, we often blame others when faced with our shortcomings or mistakes. [Blind Spot] Blame in relationships hinders personal growth and change. Blame alienates the other in the relationship because it comes across as immature and condescending. When we attribute problems solely to our partners, we avoid self-reflection and self-improvement. Blame repels rather than attracts. Proper relationship growth and transformation can only occur when we take ownership of our actions and emotions. Healthy relationships thrive on open communication, empathy, and compromise. Blaming erects barriers to these essential elements and fosters defensiveness and resentment, making it challenging to resolve conflicts constructively. In such an environment, conflicts tend to escalate, leading to a breakdown in the relationship. Introspection plays a crucial role in maintaining healthy relationships. When we pause and reflect on our actions, feelings, and contributions to a situation and we choose accountability rather than blame, we look great in the other’s eyes. Accepting accountability lets us communicate our feelings and expectations to our partners. Blame hinders personal development, disrupts healthy communication, and erodes trust. Taking responsibility for our actions and emotions fosters stronger and more harmonious relationships, allowing us to escape the harmful cycle of blame. Introspection allows us to become emotionally mature. Blame has the opposite effect. Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate you reading, commenting, sharing these posts. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book today. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #mondaymood #mondaythoughts #mondaymotivation #betterme #bettereveryday #blindspots #successcoach #successmindset #counseling #selfimprovement #mindsetmatters #mindsetiseverything #adamandeve #blame #quietconfidence #relationships #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #choicesmatter #relationshiptips #responsibility #bekind

These terms are often used interchangeably. I have separated them. Happiness is based on my circumstances, while joy is sourced from within, regardless of my surroundings. Often, I hear talk about the desire to be happy. This is a good idea, yet I view happiness because of my circumstances. If this is the case, happiness is characterized by a sense of contentment, satisfaction, and general well-being based on what is happening around me. It is easy to feel happy when I celebrate things in my life or when things seem to fall into place. Because I cannot control my circumstances, the relentless pursuit of sustained happiness can be elusive and frustrating. The Apostle Paul found joy even while in chains. Oh my! Put me in chains, and finding joy would be very difficult. Yet when joy is sourced from within, I can find it anywhere. I find myself in chains when I don't have control in various situations such as working in the heat, dealing with exorbitant prices, getting stuck in traffic, waiting for late deliveries, being late to important events, and many others. When these are the circumstances that I am facing and I only focus on them, I cannot find any happiness. [Blind Spot] When I say, “So what, now what?" I can look for things I can control. I can’t go back and unring the bell or change what has happened, but I can choose how I react. I can pray, read, listen to a motivating podcast, put on my favorite music, watch a recorded movie, do a project I have been putting off, or go do something healthy. I have learned to choose joy over happenstance. I can do so many other things than focus on what I can’t do. Inner peace and joy are closely interconnected. Practice activities that calm your mind and create space for joy to emerge. These practices help you connect with your inner self and experience a profound sense of tranquility and joy. What are your methods of self-care and calming? It is great to have all of them identified so that you can pick and choose what to do when the chains of everyday life bind you. Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate you reading, commenting, sharing these posts. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book today. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #bekind #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #counseling #joy #joyorhappy #happiness #joyful #pursuitofhappiness #happy #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #communication #mindsetiseverything #toastmasters #businesscoaching #successcoach #dailyinspiration #betterme

Have you ever made a wrong decision or even many wrong decisions? Welcome to the club. Indecision produces second-guessing and doubt for future decisions. Indecision can be a culprit to making wrong decisions. Confusion, worry, embarrassment, and disorder all contribute to freezing our thinking when it comes to decisions. Decisions must be made with strategy, intentionality, intellect, and emotions. Think about how emotions play a significant role in decision-making. I have heard that all our decisions are made from an emotional viewpoint, and then we use our intellect to justify or satisfy our feelings. This sounds plausible in most situations, but not all. In my book, I discuss how worry causes indecision and confuses our ability to make healthy choices. When we are addressing many worries or concerns simultaneously, we ping and bounce from one to the next without taking the time to solve them one at a time, creating a frenzy of confusion and disallowing clarity in our thinking. You have heard me talk about how intellect and emotions compete for the same brain resources. When my anxiety is high, my intellect is low. When my intellect is high, my anxiety goes down. Surprisingly, our spirituality and intelligence are parallel. The more spiritual we are, the less emotional we become. We make our best decisions when there is a balance between our intellect, spirituality, and emotions. We need all three to make healthy choices. When I am faced with this frenzy, I use four questions that bring intellect into the equation to create information that can disrupt indecision. I identify each worry or concern and walk them through: 1. What do I know about ______________? 2. What do I not know about ____________? 3. What can I do about ____________? 4. What can I not do about ____________? By taking time to answer these questions, you can devise a plan to assist you in making the best decision with more data. This is a more than one-and-done task. Review it and keep adding to the list. You can also review it with a trusted individual who knows you well. The last question is, “Is it consistent with God’s word?” Indecision can induce procrastination, hold us back, create more anxiety, and steal our confidence. How are you dealing with indecision? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate you reading, commenting, sharing these posts. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #counselingworks #leadershipdevelopment #indecision #indecisive #wrongdecisions #confusion #thinking #worry #WorryStory #wednesday #WednesdayWisdom #wednesdayvibes #dailyhabits #betterme #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #toastmasters #bekind #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #dailyinspiration

“Silence is one of the greatest arts of communication.” ~Marcus Tullis Cicero Have you ever pondered the idea of silence being an art of communication? Our world is full of the chatter and clatter of words that go back and forth. It is so easy to think of healthy conversation as word swapping. Have you ever found yourself formulating a reply while the other speaks to you? I know I have. It seems to be a culturally accepted way to engage in today's conversations. [Blind Spot] Silence in a conversation opens the value of connection. Listening is an unfamiliar skill. Remaining silent can seem counterintuitive but it allows others to be able to complete their message to us. As we listen attentively, it opens space for others to delve deeper into their thoughts and emotions. Silence opens a massive door for expressing emotions and fostering empathy, ultimately leading to stronger connections and relationships. At the appropriate time, silence can convey volumes to the other. An empathetic sigh is mighty and can mean more than any words you can say. Suppose you are engaged in a heated exchange of words, and you add a brief pause. This pause has many benefits in this situation: · It allows you to shift from your reptilian brain of fight or flight into a more intellectual self-controlled approach. · It shifts the context of the verbal exchange's dynamics. · It interrupts the anxious conversation. (Not much good is accomplished in tense conversations.) Anxiously waiting to engage in an existing conversation can prevent a well-formulated response. Pausing gives us time to digest the other's message and choose our words wisely. Interrupting or blurting out a response is a form of responding without thinking and can lead to misunderstanding and alienation. Silence can be perceived as a form of attempted manipulation if it is intentionally conveyed in that manner. The improper use of a valuable tool is not acceptable in a healthy conversation. How about you? Can you use this tool of silence to connect, understand, and appreciate the words spoken to you? Does the other in your conversation deserve the opportunity to complete their thoughts and expressions? Silence is not the absence of communication but a powerful form of communication. Watch for the blind spots. Like, share or comment, I appreciate your feedback and sharing the message. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #mondaymood #mondaythoughts #mondaymotivation #betterme #bettereveryday #blindspots #successcoach #successmindset #counseling #selfimprovement #mindsetmatters #mindsetiseverything #silence #silenceisgolden #quietconfidence #relationships #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #choicesmatter #relationshiptips #responsibility #bekind

Walking on eggshells at work represses communication and productivity. Feeling your voice doesn’t matter can lead to breakdowns that can be costly and cause ill feelings. Too many times, I have seen this from both angles. Henry was working on a project when he learned that the client was peeved because of inadequate information flow and the need to be kept up to date on issues that were causing delays. It is Henry’s mistake for taking the easy way out to avoid conflict with his boss. He did not want to be the bearer of bad news. It is difficult for Henry to see his blind spot of conflict avoidance. He was afraid to pass this on to his boss. However, the boss is not okay with hearing bad news, creating a barrier for unwanted information to be passed upward. In this case, he contributes to poor team performance and customer frustration. The boss was so concerned with image and perfection that he could not tolerate mistakes that made his team appear unprofessional. Henry was extremely concerned with how his boss perceived him. [Blind Spot] You can see how this will end. The boss will eventually discover the ill performance of the project and be furious. The customer will be upset, and heads may even roll as a result. Had this been communicated when it was discovered, both the customer and boss would have been disappointed but not to the level that occurred by deferring serious or problematic information being shared. This kind of pattern can be very costly in delays and redesigns. The longer poor performance continues, the longer and more expensive the recovery process. There are severe repercussions concerning customer retention and customer image in the marketplace. This cost is not accurately quantifiable, yet it contributes to revenue loss that can be significant. Which role do you play at work? Can you hear or pass along bad news? Watch for the blind spots. Like, share or comment, I appreciate your feedback and sharing the message. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #bekind #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #counseling #walkingoneggshells #eggshells #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #communication #mindsetiseverything #marriagecoach #businesscoaching #successcoach #dailyinspiration #betterme

I have talked before about "walking on eggshells." It can be one of the biggest blind spots in a relationship. As mentioned in my previous post, "Who is culpable?" one can say, “I can't talk to you”; the other can say, “Why didn't you tell me?" It is imperative not to blame or attempt to identify the culprit. It happens at home when there are resentments or disagreements, and rather than talk through them, they are dismissed or put on the back burner. Letting it go is a misnomer because it doesn't go away. It creates a frustration cauldron that simmers and bubbles, only waiting for another grievance to be thrown into it. Eventually, the pot will erupt, and a fight will ensue. We often hold back our true thoughts and emotions when we're so focused on avoiding sensitive topics, and the longer this frustration caldron goes unattended, the harsher the next argument will be. Walking on eggshells leads to heightened stress and anxiety. The constant fear of setting off an emotional explosion can affect your mental well-being. It's like living in a state of perpetual alertness, which is both mentally and emotionally exhausting. This can even lead to a situation where you start questioning yourself and your feelings, wondering if you're overreacting or if your concerns are valid. [Blind Spot] Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, open communication, and a willingness to address conflicts constructively. It is more productive to create a space where everyone feels comfortable expressing themselves and working through problems together, rather than tiptoeing around them. Being able to assess yourself emotionally is the first clue that you are reacting in an unhealthy fashion. Finding yourself anxious or uncomfortable indicates you are in an unfit situation. Now's the perfect time to discreetly establish some boundaries, like saying no to a conversation or argument that's just not making any sense. Making statements without using the word "you" is the key. "You" statements cause defensiveness and create a side argument, resulting in drowning out the original issue. [Blind Spot] Finding answers and understanding rather than blaming can result in a positive outcome. Professional help is sometimes required to reframe a situation for a healthier understanding. Perhaps stomping on eggshells makes more sense. [Blind Spot] Can you identify and react in a healthy manner when resentments surface for you? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from these posts, like, share or comment. I appreciate your feedback. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #counselingworks #leadershipdevelopment #communication #relationshiptips #letstalk #wednesday #WednesdayWisdom #wednesdayvibes #dailyhabits #betterme #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #toastmasters #walkingoneggshells #bekind #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #dailyinspiration

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where you feel your voice doesn't matter? Talking to someone who is grumpy, growly, stern, or unapproachable can lead to severe communications problems, and it is fascinating that both parties in this example have blind spots. The one who represents the authority is unknowingly creating an experience that causes fragmentation. The one who retreats is equally contributing to the problem. One of the most significant outcomes of discovering Blind Spots is the ability to hear, recognize, and become aware of your participation in what causes fatal relationship mistakes. This is an amazing process that cuts in two ways: 1) A person who feels dominated may not recognize their reaction to the situation. They may have the familiar feeling that confronting the more dominant person will only exacerbate the problem. This creates a facade of understanding, while underneath, there is a lack of genuine connection. Going quiet, doubtfully agreeing, and changing the subject are communication pitfalls under these circumstances. These reactions create mistrust, confusion, and derail opportunities to connect. They lead to the creation of secrets and conversations that occur behind the other's back. This makes for juicy gossip when you can share it with others who understand and appreciate your dilemma. It may feel good, but it will only perpetuate the problem. When we feel frustrated and someone truly understands us, it can often lead to a sense of self-righteousness. The problem here is someone else (the dominate one) needs to understand you. 2) The person who is more dominant often fails to recognize the impact of their actions and is typically unable to acknowledge when they have offended the other or dismissed their input. This feeling of being right and in control may feel comfortable to them but is an unconscious turnoff. The dominating one is opposed to hearing information that could benefit both. Defensiveness is the blind spot that, if not discovered, will continue to develop resentments that can, over time, fracture a relationship. Being unable to hear negative things about ourselves is one of the biggest pitfalls to healthy communication. The presentation of dominance prevents open sharing, significantly if the other is unconsciously compromising. Both parties here are being fooled. It is easy to avoid conflict. Where do you find yourself, being dominant or being recessive? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from these posts, like, share or comment. I appreciate your feedback. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #mondaymood #mondaythoughts #mondaymotivation #betterme #bettereveryday #blindspots #successcoach #successmindset #counseling #selfimprovement #dominant #mindsetmatters #mindsetiseverything #life #lifedecisions #choices #relationships #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #choicesmatter #relationshiptips #responsibility #bekind