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Life, love and the pursuit...

Life, love, and the “pursuit” of…. relationships.

There is nothing more thrilling, more exciting than the feeling that “the one” is attracted to you and the pursuit begins.

You become completely wrapped up in one another’s lives, inseparable.

Yes, life cannot be sweeter.

But it is just a memory because you have been feeling for the past few months, maybe even years now stuck in a rut, the chemistry is toned down, communication is off, and something just feels adrift.

Now you seem to only pursue jobs, dinner, kids, school, and events, and along the way, your world has turned into a continuous daily grind.

You feel underappreciated and like all your efforts go unrecognized. This is not the way it used to be.

You ask yourself, “what happened to us?”

How did it go from “Every little thing she does is magic, to "You’ve lost that loving feeling?”

You must recognize that life is constantly changing.

Many times, in my office I am asked a question, “Why am I the only one who has to change?” or “Why don’t you pick on him/her?”

The major issue is wanting the other person to change.

After all, change is horribly difficult and when I see that the other person can change and cause our life to be more pleasant, balanced, and joyful, it makes sense for them to change.

Interestingly enough, they do not want to change for the same reasons.

I have discovered the secret to this dilemma is to change myself.

We all go through rough patches in our relationships—every relationship—not just marriage.

Reclaiming and restoring pursuit in relationships is vital; it is a huge missing piece.

No matter how you move forward, remind yourself that all relationships take work, it does not mean it is over… it is just a chance to grow.

It is not so much the grand gestures as it is the, I see you’s, the thanks for all the seemingly small, simple things that get done that truly hold us together.

Long, happy relationships are about working together, committing to improvement, being compassionate, showing appreciation, life, love, and the pursuit!

Have you ever felt you weren't pursued in your relationships?

Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.

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Blind Spots in Relationships

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Aug 08, 2022

😀 This is so true, "It is not so much the grand gestures as it is the, I see you’s, the thanks for all the seemingly small, simple things that get done that truly hold us together."

We can forget that it is not the big one time grand gesture but often the small things more often that make us feel extra special. Thanks for the reminders😉

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