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Passive. Aggressive. Assertive.

We have all experienced them, the friend that fly’s off the handle at a waiter, the roommate that leaves notes instead of talking, the coworkers that refuse to stand up for themselves no matter the personal cost.

All of these scenarios represent an inability to properly communicate emotions in a productive way.

Emotions make us human, but they can get the best of us, especially when communicating.

Intense emotions can lead to unhealthy interactions with others if unmanaged.

Do you know the difference between passive, aggressive, and assertive behavior?

You may have been in a situation with these behaviors and did not understand how you or the other person were coming across in the conversation.

I say that passive and aggressive are on the extreme ends of a continuum, and assertive is on a continuum of its own, where you are either mildly assertive or boldly assertive.

—PASSIVE Someone who is passive tends to avoid conflict and will agree with others despite how they feel. Have a tendency to let people walk on them.

—AGGRESSIVE A person who is behaving aggressively may dominate a group, or use humiliation or attacks to gain control. Have a tendency to run over people, criticizing, insulting, and intimidating.

—ASSERTIVE A person who is behaving assertively will be both respectful and clear when disagreeing with others. They are honest, fair, and direct. Have a tendency to set good limits and boundaries.

Knowing these key behaviors you can begin to construct and implement strategies for conversations that are direct, and respectful, building a better you and how you show up.

To learn how to create healthy relationships, step back from assumptions, set good boundaries, and realistic expectations to help benefit you and the people around you.

So many disagreements and hurt feelings can be avoided by understanding the distinction between these 3.

Communication is key to healthy relationships, the more effort, intentionality, and focus we put into this, the more fulfilling and emotionally mature our relationships will become.

Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.

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