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So what?

I often encounter something that stops me in my tracks. It is so easy to get derailed. When my plan doesn't get implemented, or I get ambushed along the way, I sometimes want to give up or go into my fight-or-flight mode.

It isn't easy to see a new future or direction. Often, I allow my emotions to get the best of me. It is only natural to feel disappointed or distracted during this time; I can't see the future.

At one time, a traffic light on the way to my office was terribly congested. I found a back road that allowed me to skirt around the light. One morning, I took the shortcut again, and when I got to the street I was looking for, there was a policeman with three cars pulled over ahead of me. Man, here I am late already, and now I have to face this guy.

My mind raced to being late, my insurance going up, and I have an excellent driving record, now I will blemish that record. Nothing indicated this was a private road. I had every excuse ready and why I should be given a warning at most. When he finally made his way back to me, nothing I said stopped him from writing profusely and with a smile. He said, “Tell it to the judge, have a great day.” Man was I fuming. Injustice, unfairness, unreasonableness, and other things rattled in my anxious mind.

I got to the office and took care of what I needed to do to catch up. It began to dawn on me that I could not do anything but follow the process.

The outcome? No ticket and probation for six months. It’s interesting how, in the moment, my anxious brain took over and masked my intellect. [Blind Spot]

Of course, this depends on the severity of the circumstances. Small things allow a swifter recovery. When I encounter significant issues, as quickly as possible I ask myself the question, "So what…now what?"

This question allows me to focus on gathering facts rather than analyzing issues using my emotions.

How about you? Can you employ this mantra for your benefit?

Watch for the blind spots.

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