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Words without Speaking

This past Sunday was another wonderful experience watching the young family that usually sits in front of us at church. I am amazed at what I see happen as this young couple comes to celebrate Sunday with their three children. Their ages are 3,7, and 9. The love in this family is so apparent, and the children's behavior is exemplary.

The mom sat with her arm around her daughter. Both leaned in, demonstrating a firm, loving grip. Her son looked over at them, leaned into her, and was received by her other loving arm and gentle caress. Love, comfort, connection, and security were all spoken without words. Her younger son was sitting comfortably in Dad's lap, and when he waved at her with his pinkie finger, she returned it and added a loving smile.

Dad glanced at the middle child and, with a wink and a nod to the front, the boy paid quick attention to what was happening. After the children's sermon, they left for their activities and the parents scooted close and embraced. Wow, what a fantastic conversation they had with no words.

Have you ever noticed how we pick up information from others without hearing a sound?

Our body language radiates a range of emotions, intentions, and attitudes. They include gestures, posture, facial expressions, eye contact, and touch.

Tone, including pitch, volume, and rhythm, comes from within the body and can convey emotions and attitudes. A gentle and soothing tone can express care and empathy, while a harsh or condescending tone may indicate anger or criticism.

Touch is a powerful nonverbal form of communication in relationships. It can convey affection, comfort, support, and connection. Different types of touch, such as a gentle caress, a firm handshake, or a comforting hug, can communicate various emotions and intentions. However, because individual preferences might vary, it's important to respect personal boundaries and get permission before touching someone.

Eye contact is a significant aspect of nonverbal communication, conveying attentiveness, interest, and sincerity. Maintaining appropriate and comfortable eye contact during conversations demonstrates active listening and engagement. On the other hand, prolonged or excessive eye contact could be viewed in some situations as intrusive or uncomfortable.

Silence and pauses convey various meanings, such as reflection, discomfort, or tension. Comfortable silence can indicate a sense of closeness.

Open and honest communication, both verbal and nonverbal, are crucial for building and maintaining healthy and fulfilling relationships.

Awareness of and responsiveness to nonverbal communication can deepen understanding, enhance emotional connection, and improve overall relationship dynamics.

Do you ever take into consideration what your body is saying? What are your unconscious body mannerisms saying to others?

Watch for the blind spots.

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