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Blind Spots: Secrets




Secrets do not always involve betrayal or dishonesty. Sometimes a secret is simply a feeling we are afraid to share. It may be an unspoken fear, a hidden disappointment, a need we have pushed aside, or hurt we have carried quietly.


We tell ourselves, “I am upset, but I will not say anything,” or “That hurt me, but I will just let it go.” We may disagree but pretend everything is fine because we do not want to stir up trouble.


Most people hide their feelings because they are trying to keep the peace.

Here is what I have learned. Hidden feelings do not create peace. They create distance.


When we hold back what matters, anxiety and misunderstanding begin filling in the empty spaces. We can feel lonely while sitting right beside someone we love. Before long, we are no longer living in the real relationship. We are living in a version built around what has not been said.


Healthy honesty might sound like, “I am struggling with something,” or “I have been holding this in, and I believe it is creating distance between us.” It can also be as simple as saying, “This is uncomfortable, but I want to talk about it because you matter to me.”


Not every passing thought needs to be spoken.

But important feelings deserve a safe place at the table. Secrets shrink relationships. Honesty gives them room to grow. Real connection requires courage, and sometimes courage begins with one honest sentence.


Watch for the blind spots.



What if the thing affecting your relationship is something you don’t even see? Blind Spots in Relationships helps uncover what you don’t know you don’t know. Get your copy today on Amazon.


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