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Can failure be my teacher?



Sam Walton, founder of SAM'S, tried and failed numerous times before finally opening a business that satisfied customers and propelled him to prosper inconceivably. If he had responded to early failures with excuses, blaming the customers, bad store locations, a downturn in the economy, and poor suppliers, he would have been just another entrepreneur in the pile of unsuccessful businesses.


How many times did Thomas Edison fail before he became one of our greatest inventors? One of his famous quotes is, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."


Failure only exists after I attempt something. I don't have to worry about failure if I am not risking. Neither do I make any progress.

I have struggled with the fear of failure all my life; however, I now see it as one of my greatest teachers. I don't mean throw caution to the wind and become foolish; I mean be courageous and step out.


I am an encourager who loves seeing people succeed. I find it difficult not to want to champion others when failure comes their way, but I'm learning to take a step back and be both supportive and challenging. There is a fine line between helping and enabling poor behavior.


Failure hurts, is embarrassing, and causes shame unless I investigate the ashes and learn what I could do differently to create success and avoid that pitfall again. If viewed as a stepping stone rather than an end, it has the potential to be one of the most profound teachers.


👉 I suggest applying the principle; So what, now what?
I can quit, or I can learn. I will persist and not give up.

In families and at work, I see others who experience failure. It is too easy to fix it for someone rather than allow the bite of failure to teach them. A skinned knee or elbow teaches us that whatever caused it needs to be avoided, or the pain will persist. We can’t let that skinned spot cause us to quit or limit us to failure.


I get to get up and go again! It is a privilege. How could I be different? If I shelter myself from the pain of failure, I am blocking one of life's most valuable teachers: wisdom. Wisdom comes from life experiences.


I now embrace failure as my best wisdom generator.


How about you? Is failure your nemesis or motivator?


Watch for the blind spots.





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