Dead Right

There are two kinds of being right: helpfully right and dead right. Being helpfully right builds connection, clarity, and trust; being dead right quietly destroys them. I once worked with a man who corrected his wife every time she spoke, not out of cruelty, but out of a deep respect for accuracy. He believed he was being helpful. What he couldn’t see was that his constant corrections were suffocating her. His facts were correct, but his delivery was emotionally destructive.

Dead right shows up when accuracy matters more than connection, when correcting replaces understanding, when ego is protected at the expense of relationship, and when logic is used to invalidate emotion. It’s winning the argument while losing the person.

The blind spot is believing that being right automatically means being good.

Emotional maturity recognizes something deeper: being right at the cost of a relationship is a form of immaturity. Kindness matters more than precision. If connection is the goal, the path looks different, validating feelings before facts, asking gently curious questions, resisting correction unless it truly matters, prioritizing relationship over precision, and saying, “Help me understand your perspective.”

People don’t remember your logic; they remember how you made them feel. Choose connection over correction.

Most people want growth without discomfort, but blind spots are often the clearest path to change.

A blind spot doesn’t reveal a flaw; it reveals potential.

When one becomes visible, recurring conflicts make sense, misunderstandings become solvable, and emotional confusion gives way to clarity. Growth begins with this honest question: What am I doing that is causing disconnection in this relationship? That’s how blind spots become breakthroughs.

Watch for the blind spots.

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