I have talked before about "walking on eggshells." It can be one of the biggest blind spots in a relationship. As mentioned in my previous post, "Who is culpable?" one can say, “I can't talk to you”; the other can say, “Why didn't you tell me?" It is imperative not to blame or attempt to identify the culprit.
It happens at home when there are resentments or disagreements, and rather than talk through them, they are dismissed or put on the back burner. Letting it go is a misnomer because it doesn't go away. It creates a frustration cauldron that simmers and bubbles, only waiting for another grievance to be thrown into it. Eventually, the pot will erupt, and a fight will ensue.
We often hold back our true thoughts and emotions when we're so focused on avoiding sensitive topics, and the longer this frustration caldron goes unattended, the harsher the next argument will be.
Walking on eggshells leads to heightened stress and anxiety. The constant fear of setting off an emotional explosion can affect your mental well-being. It's like living in a state of perpetual alertness, which is both mentally and emotionally exhausting. This can even lead to a situation where you start questioning yourself and your feelings, wondering if you're overreacting or if your concerns are valid. [Blind Spot]
Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, open communication, and a willingness to address conflicts constructively. It is more productive to create a space where everyone feels comfortable expressing themselves and working through problems together, rather than tiptoeing around them.
Being able to assess yourself emotionally is the first clue that you are reacting in an unhealthy fashion. Finding yourself anxious or uncomfortable indicates you are in an unfit situation. Now's the perfect time to discreetly establish some boundaries, like saying no to a conversation or argument that's just not making any sense.
Making statements without using the word "you" is the key. "You" statements cause defensiveness and create a side argument, resulting in drowning out the original issue. [Blind Spot]
Finding answers and understanding rather than blaming can result in a positive outcome. Professional help is sometimes required to reframe a situation for a healthier understanding.
Perhaps stomping on eggshells makes more sense. [Blind Spot]
Can you identify and react in a healthy manner when resentments surface for you?
Watch for the blind spots.
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