In 2017, Hurricane Harvey struck our area as a category-four hurricane. Wind and flooding were catastrophic. Our church opened as a Red Cross disaster facility for 150 people. At one time, there were over 400 refugees in that facility. I was there as a Stephen Minister to provide care and comfort to these displaced families and individuals.
I noticed on my rounds a man who was very short and stocky. He was covered with tattoos on his entire body, including his head and some on his face. He looked unapproachable, but I knew I needed to check on him. He greeted me with a smile and a firm handshake as I approached him.
It is not easy to share my blind spots. Here is a judgment I regret.
I find a natural inclination to categorize and judge others. Our brains are wired to make quick assessments and snap judgments to navigate the complex social world. However, this tendency to categorize and judge can be misleading and often leads us astray.
One of the most significant issues with judging and categorizing others is that it oversimplifies their complexity. When I label someone based on their characteristics or actions, I overlook the depth of their experiences, beliefs, and emotions. This oversimplification led me to stereotype and assume things about this man that were false and unfair. [Blind Spot]
After introducing myself to the man, I found a very soft and gentle man. He was fascinating to listen to. His history was troubled and full of violence. His early life was about survival, and he didn’t have a chance to go to school. He had turned his life around and was married and had two children. After sharing our stories, he asked if he could pray for me as I worked with these refugees. Wow!
How many times have I judged and not allowed myself to encounter someone different from me? How many misunderstandings and judgments have I allowed to keep me smug and comfortable? I have passed judgment on to the rich and beautiful as well.
The Big Playbook gives us clear insight on this, “Do not judge by outward appearances, but judge with righteous judgment.” John 7:24
Conversation is my best way of getting to know others, not by physical appearance.
How about you? Have you been as guilty as I have been of judging others without knowing them?
Watch for the blind spots.
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