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Here Comes the Judge

I don't know about you, but I find it difficult not to judge or stereotype others. Ouch!


When I negatively judge others, I unconsciously cast a shadow over my character, engaging in a destructive cycle that diminishes my sense of empathy and humanity. This process of judging others stems from fear, misunderstanding, or anger and harms me more than those I target. It's a reflection of my self-confidence, inner turmoil, or inability to cope with differences or adversities healthily.


Demonizing others is a part of my defense mechanism, my way to distance myself from ones I find uncomfortable or threatening. This not only strips the other person of their complex humanity but also restricts my worldview, limiting my ability to understand and engage with the richness of others.


Equally, if not more damaging, is my negative self-judgment. Negatively judging myself is an all-too-common trap that can lead to a harmful cycle of self-doubt and reduced self-confidence. This pattern often begins subtly, with critical inner dialogues that magnify my flaws and minimize my strengths. I might fixate on a mistake at work, a social blunder, or even my appearance, allowing these singular aspects to define my value. Such self-criticism, while seemingly a push towards self-improvement, often does the opposite. It can paralyze me with fear of failure, making me hesitant to try new things or take on challenges.


What's crucial to remember is that I am more than my mistakes or perceived shortcomings.

Continuous negative self-judgment closes my eyes to my capabilities and achievements. Cultivating self-compassion and understanding that imperfection is part of the human experience is essential. I can foster a healthier mindset by shifting my focus from self-criticism to self-understanding and acceptance. This doesn't mean ignoring areas for improvement but approaching them with a kinder, more constructive attitude. In doing so, I not only enhance my mental well-being but also open myself up to greater personal growth and fulfillment.


How about you? Can you be kinder and utilize judgment for goodness rather than demonizing yourself or others?


Watch for the blind spots.

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