Do you draw me in or repel me?
The way you present yourself can either make you a larger-than-life figure in your story, or a background character.
Some walk into a room and instantly put everyone at ease.
Others seem to make you grit your teeth and eyes roll no matter what they do.
School is gearing up; some have started, and others are getting ready.
I am reminded of the Fifth-grade teacher who greeted his students with special handshakes every day before they enter class.
This teacher not only puts his students at ease, but they establish their relationship from the first moment of class.
I don’t know about you but that makes my heart smile.
Life is precious and we are each faced with pain, suffering, shame, loss, and difficulty.
Who doesn’t have their cross to bear?
But in it all, people still need acknowledgment, recognition, and appreciation.
Your ability to receive me, or others, will either make us feel special (and want to stay) or like a blockhead (and want to leave).
This acknowledgment represents the giving and receiving in relationships; it is how I perceive myself in your presence.
Acknowledgment is powerful.
We must pay attention to all that is said and done; even what is unsaid, because it creates the “feedback loop.”
When I am not well received in your presence, I can be left feeling rejected, dissed, or belittled and the feedback loop cannot be completed.
There is interference and it can lead to disconnection.
Remember, we teach people how to treat us.
When you do not receive and acknowledge them fully, you train them to stop showing up for the relationship.
Listen, we are all busy running off to this or that and have a LOT we need to get done.
As stated in the quote below, those are not the things that are remembered, it is how you made them feel.
"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you make them feel" - Maya Angelou.
We will make mistakes.
We are human, and things happen. That does not give us the license to treat each other poorly or make people feel less in our presence.
In close personal relationships, we must ask how we want them to feel about themselves in our presence.
If we want them to feel good, we must give them that experience. Otherwise, they will slip away and we will not know why.
Do you attract or repel? [Blind Spot]
At the end of the day, as trite as it may sound, follow the big playbook,
“Treat others just as you want to be treated.” Luke 6:31 CEV
We can lift others up with one message, one action – one person at a time.
How will I feel about myself when I am in your presence?
Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.
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