As a boy, I often felt invisible. As the fifth of six children, it was easy to feel like another face in the crowd. Dad was a good man, tough but well-meaning, doing his best with no real roadmap for fatherhood. Mom was equally dedicated, working tirelessly to keep our family afloat.
We were a good family, but the dynamics didn’t leave much room for me to feel special. My older brother was ten years my senior and had little in common with me. My three sisters were close-knit, forming their circle. Even my younger brother, just two years apart, felt like a stranger in our childhood.
I didn’t realize it then, but I searched for approval and desperately wanted to feel seen and valued. At school, I kept my head down, blending into the background. I envied the confident kids laughing at their lunch tables, but I never felt worthy to join them. Words like smart, talented, or worthy seemed to belong to others but not me.
The Marine Corps and graduating college gave me a boost of confidence, but deep down, I still struggled with feeling unworthy. It wasn’t until I went to counseling that I came to a crucial realization: I was my own worst enemy. My mind was filled with relentless negative self-talk, and I had no idea how much it was feeding my sense of inadequacy.
Through counseling, I learned to accept myself, both my strengths and my shortcomings. This acceptance became the key to unlocking a powerful truth: I am enough and worthy.
Now, I see that worthiness was never something I had to achieve. It was always there, waiting for me to recognize it. The freedom that comes with finally embracing this truth is priceless.
Worthiness is the intrinsic value I possess simply by being human. It’s not earned through achievements or approval; I already have it. Worthiness means understanding that I matter, my flaws and all and that I deserve love and belonging just as I am.
How about you? Have you ever struggled with feeling worthy?
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