Is Insecurity Running My Show?

I don’t know about you, but in my past, I’ve carried insecurity like an invisible weight, sometimes without even realizing it. Self-doubt, fear of not being enough, wondering if I belonged… all of it crept in and shaped how I showed up in relationships, both personally and professionally. I know what imposter syndrome feels like.

In my close relationships, insecurity often looked like needing constant reassurance. I would overanalyze a comment or text, wondering if something was wrong. A delayed response could feel like rejection. I’ve caught myself comparing my journey to a friend’s success, and instead of celebrating them, I felt smaller.

In my work life, it wasn’t much different. I sometimes held back ideas because I feared they weren’t good enough. I avoided asking for help because I didn’t want to seem weak. And I’ve taken feedback far too personally, even when it was meant to help me grow.

The hardest part? The more I tried to hide these insecurities, the more power they had. They distorted how I saw others, and how I assumed others saw me. I became guarded when I needed to be open, defensive when I longed to connect. The result was tension, misunderstanding, and missed opportunities for closeness.

But here’s the shift: I started noticing the blind spots. I began asking myself, Is this fear or fact? I leaned into self-awareness, reached for tools like coaching and honest conversations, and slowly began to loosen insecurity’s grip.

I’ve learned I don’t need to be perfect; I just need to be real. Facing my insecurities has brought more peace, more trust, and more genuine connection than pretending ever could.

Maybe you’ve been there too. If so, you’re not alone. Insecurity doesn’t have to define us. We can see it, name it, and grow through it.

Watch for the blind spots.

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