The holidays often bring mixed emotions. I meet many families who struggle during this time, burdened by regrets and unresolved conflicts from the past. For some, gathering to laugh, share memories, and create new ones feels impossible. It reminds me that in relationships, we only get half a vote. One person's decision to opt out can end the connection, while a vote to stay in doesn't guarantee reconciliation. This reality can feel heartbreaking, especially when relationships are fractured. Pain and bitterness, unfortunately, often perpetuate more of the same.
My family, consisting of my two brothers, three sisters, their spouses and all our children, has faced its share of challenges. Yet, we are a loving, giving, and respectful family at our core. When we gather, we share stories, laugh, and remind each other of long-forgotten moments from our past. It's a gift to reconnect in this way.
The bittersweet truth, however, is that time changes everything. Although our family has grown, we have lost too many precious members. Time feels fleeting, and it is tempting to believe we'll have endless opportunities to be together. But reality tells a different story.
I've learned to focus on living fully in the present, knowing tomorrow is never guaranteed. Living without regrets means investing in relationships, building a better today, and preparing for a brighter tomorrow for myself and those around me. Healthy relationships are vital, but I've also accepted that I can't control whether others stay or walk away. I focus on being the best version of myself and staying true to my values and those I care about.
The holidays illuminate both the joy and the struggles within families. For some of us, it's a time of celebration; for others, it highlights loss or brokenness. Wherever I find myself this season, I will approach it with grace, gratitude, and compassion for myself and others. Moments of peace and connection can be found, even in the smallest acts of kindness.
I choose to vote in.
How about you? Do you need to mend any relationships? Is it possible to surrender in relationships and win?
Watch for the blind spots.
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