Regrets Weigh Tons

Regrets in my life have felt like an ache buried deep in my bones, dull, persistent pain that never entirely leaves. I've sat with others who have told me they've carried regret for decades. Some mourn the things they did, the words they said in anger, the bridges they burned, and the people they hurt. Others ache for what they didn't do, dreams they delayed, love they didn't express, risks they avoided.

Jim Rohn said, "We must all suffer one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons." And those tons settle into my bones when I ignore life's quiet signals.

Darren Hardy reminds me that life compounds over time. Small daily choices either build a legacy or leave a trail of "what ifs." Regret is often the accumulation of blind spots I ignored, the moments I didn't take the time to reflect on myself, the times I believed I had more time.

As I've written before, blind spots are the things I don't know, I don't know. They hide in my patterns and justifications. And when I finally see them, it’s too late, I realize the cost. The aches set in.

But here's the good news: while regret is heavy, it also serves as a compass. If I listen to it with courage and empathy, it shows me where I wasn't aligned with my deeper values. It calls me not to shame, but to action.  I can't undo the past, but I can learn from it. I can close the gap between who I was and who I am becoming.

That's the work of emotional maturity: being honest about my choices, gentle with my humanity, and bold enough to do life differently.

If regret is aching in your bones today, I suggest you don't push it away. Sit with it. Let regret speak. Then, decide what you will do while you still can.

Because nothing is heavier than the regret of a life unlived.

Watch for the blind spots.

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