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Secrets kill relationships

I say that if I am going to do anything—like spend money without discussing it first, have a private conversation with someone, go to a place that I should not go, give out information that I should not give out, look for stuff on the internet that I should not look at, I might as well plan on killing my relationships.

If you are going to “secret anything” you are treading on thin ice. [Blind Spot]

Secrets kill relationships.

A secret is defined as something done, made, or conducted without the knowledge of other people.

"Do nothing secretly; for time sees and hears all things, and discloses all." ~Sophocles

You may be able to bide time before it catches up with you but rest assured it will kill trust and create a barrier to any healthy connection.

While differing in reasoning and threat, the underlying problem with secrets is they disqualify authenticity, put a stop to discussion or resolution and you keep having to create new ones to cover the original ones.

If you have been “secreting” anything in any relationship, come clean with honesty, transparency, and asking for forgiveness, these are essential for sustaining your relationships.

Even if they cannot forgive at the moment—you can work to rebuild and you will at the very least set yourself free on a personal path toward redemption which will hopefully encourage you to be more truthful in the future—both in your relationships and with yourself.

Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.

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