So What? Now What?

The other day, I was driving home when a woman suddenly pulled out in front of me. I had to slam on the brakes to avoid a crash. My heart raced, and yes, I lay on the horn. I went out of control to gain control. I was reacting out of my emotions without any logic or intellect. It didn’t help my situation at all.

Another time, frustrated by a congested intersection, I started using a shortcut on a private road to get to my office. It worked, until one morning I saw a police officer ahead with three cars already pulled over. I was already running late. Now I imagined my insurance going up, my clean driving record ruined. I had every excuse; no signs warned that it was a private road.

After slowly working through the other drivers, the officer finally got to me. Nothing I said made a difference. “Tell it to the judge,” he said with a smile.

I was fuming, caught in the heat of injustice and frustration. But later, after I calmed down and handled what needed to be done at work, I realized: I couldn’t change what happened. I could choose to feel bad the next few days because of what I felt was done to me. But I can’t undo what has already been done.

So what... now what?

It turned out I didn’t receive a fine, just a short driving probation. But at that moment, my anxious brain had clouded my ability to think clearly.

Life throws moments like that at me often, things that block my path, disrupt my plan, or provoke an emotional reaction.

That question, “So what… now what?” helps me reset. It shifts me from holding on to what I can’t change, from emotion to clarity. It doesn’t erase the pain, but it helps me take the next step.

Big or small, setbacks will come. But when I slow down and ask the right question, my emotions settle, and my intellect takes over.

Watch for the blind spots.

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