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The Unspoken Words




Often, it is easy to say, "I'm not going to say anything because that would just cause more problems." The problem with withholding conversation is that it is easy to assume what the other is experiencing or thinking, and we are poor mind readers at best.

 

The unspoken words often carry more weight than the spoken words. This truth underscores a paradox: While communication is the cornerstone of healthy relationships, withholding information, not what we express, sows the seeds of misunderstanding, resentment, and conflict.

 

Silence, or the act of withholding communication, can manifest in numerous ways: the unresolved argument that lingers in the air like a heavy fog, the unexpressed affection that withers in the heart, or the unshared pain that deepens the solitary burden. Each of these silences is a barrier to intimacy, creating a buffer zone where misunderstanding flourishes and connection fades. The irony lies in our belief that silence can sometimes protect us or our relationships from harm. In reality, it often does the opposite.

 

Non-verbal cues, too, speak volumes. The sighs, the turning away, the slight tension that lingers in the air— these signals often carry a subtext that is missed or misinterpreted. The danger is that, over time, these unaddressed feelings and needs accumulate, building an invisible wall that can eventually seem insurmountable.

 

Sometimes, the fear of vulnerability is a significant factor driving us to silence. Sharing our deepest fears, desires, and insecurities exposes us to potential hurt and rejection. However, it is precisely through this sharing that relationships deepen and grow.

 

Vulnerability fosters empathy, connection, and understanding, serving as the antidote to the poison of silence.

 

"The story I am telling myself is..." Brene Brown uses this opener to break the ice of silence. Telling the story of what I am thinking or feeling is a beautiful way to engage in a non-threatening manner. When I talk about myself, there is very little room to argue.

 

How about you? What are your unspoken words?

 

Watch for the blind spots.

 

 


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Sometimes, the fear of vulnerability is a significant factor driving us to silence. Sharing our deepest fears, desires, and insecurities exposes us to potential hurt and rejection.

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