When Love Holds Up a Mirror

Years ago, I was talking to a couple. The wife asked, “Why do you walk out when we argue?”

He told her, “Because I don’t want to make it worse.”

She replied softly, “But when you just walk away, it does make it worse.”

That one sentence stopped him in his tracks. He thought he was keeping the peace, but he was really avoiding discomfort.

Self-awareness revealed that his perceived calmness was actually control in disguise.

After discussing ways to look at himself without feeling blamed and put down, he finally faced that truth, and decided to try something new, which I now call Inversion Therapy. Instead of leaving the room, he stayed in it. Instead of defending his view, he wanted to understand hers. The first few times were awkward, but eventually, something shifted. His calm became genuine. Their conversations grew deeper. They learned to stay connected through disagreements rather than escaping them.

In love and leadership alike, emotional maturity begins the moment I stop defending and seek understanding. Self-awareness turns conflict into a classroom, where every argument offers a lesson about who I am and how I respond.

Today, I’m grateful for the mirror love holds up.

It doesn’t always flatter, but it always teaches. And when I allow that mirror to do its work, I grow into a person who can love, listen, and lead with grace.

Watch for the blind spots.

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