Don't Use Someone Else's Yardstick
Emotionally mature people can tell the difference between constructive and destructive feedback.
Constructive feedback helps us identify blind spots.
Destructive feedback comes across as controlling and belittling.
Too many people are saying, “You need to do it this way, you shouldn’t do that. Well, that didn’t work well. You definitely should have studied harder.”
What we hear is we are not enough; we don’t measure up to their standards.
Then we feel bad because it’s difficult to live up to the way others measure.
Comparison…that’s another measure, it’s looking at people and thinking, “Man, everyone has better ideas, are making more, getting out there more, selling more, doing more.”
It can be easy to feel like everyone else is just…more.
Using someone else’s yardstick to measure your self-worth will always leave you short.
We all have our own talents, strengths, skills, and abilities and we should never measure or compare ourselves against another.
We can only measure ourselves against our own potential and against the person we were the day before.
When it comes to your potential, it’s important to recognize the things you enjoy, excel, and have a bent toward. Then tap into those things.
Let’s follow the big play book and “pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare (measure) yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” ~Galatians 6:4-5 NLT
Keep your yardstick close.
Watch for the blind spots and build a better you.
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