‘Why’ in relationships is caustic.
We can be quick to ask the ‘why’ questions.
"Why did you not call?"
"Why are you late?"
"Why are you looking at me that way?"
Did it make you feel a little defensive reading those?
It's because the ‘why’ question is charged with frustration, emotion, hidden agendas, and sometimes anger.
It is cultural to look at the other person rather than to look inside. [Blind Spot]
‘Why’ provokes and puts people on the defensive. ‘Why’ is asking for justification that cannot remedy the anxiety being expressed.
What can we do instead?
Let’s flip the script on the ‘why’ questions.
Rather than saying, "Why are you late?"
I could say—I was worried, I wanted to hear your voice, I missed you, I was afraid something could have happened to you—showing you care and empathize.
Small adjustments that bring radical change in relationships.
Flip the script today, the change you experience will be amazing.
Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.
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