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If I could do it again...

Occasionally situations arise and we look back and see that they didn't turn out the way we would have liked.

It is easy to feel frustrated or ill-prepared when these circumstances arise.

The other day I was in the mall needing to get a new screen saver on my phone.

I was shopping on “no tax on back-to-school items”, so the mall was packed.

I was under the weather and feeling bad physically. I had tested for fever and covid—both were negative.

Did I mention I had already dealt with the parking lot, and it was awful?

Needless to say, by the time I got to my destination, I was out of patience.

I believe that the person I was speaking with shared my frustration. I was irritated when we first started talking, and he was too.

There were obviously more “emotions” driving our conversation than intellect.

At the end of our transaction, I was asked to pay 20 more dollars than what I thought we had first agreed.

After a round of frustrating words, I began to calm down and pay him what he was asking.

He gave me a $20 discount and I gave him a $20 tip.

If I could go back and do it all over again, I would have been better prepared to deal with this situation without allowing my emotions to get the best of me.

I could have taken a self-inventory and identified my potential short fuse.

I could have presented myself in a way that made me look good and made him look good also.

I love the question, ‘if I could go back and do it again’ because generally situations like this repeat themselves.

Anytime I look at going back and doing it again I prepare myself for the next time.

I can learn from the incident rather than go into “self-beat-up mode.”

It is easy to get caught up in a relationship and say or do something that we feel was haphazard and perhaps not as intellectual or spiritual as we would have liked.

When we look at the question ‘if I could go back and do it again, here's how I'd do it differently’ we open the opportunity to either, 1) go back and re-deal with that situation or 2) prepare ourselves for the next circumstance that may arise like this one.

Healthy questions like this can posture us better for results in our future experiences.

Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.

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S. Carol Majors
S. Carol Majors
Aug 27, 2022

It's very frustrating trying to deal with customer service when you have tried to contact them on their chat and they don't give you the right answers to questions you need to ask. So you get someone on the phone after waiting and are frustrated, to begin with. The person I got was very kind but had a hard time understanding what my problem was which didn't help. She finally understood and I got what I needed and ended up apologizing and thanking her for her kindness. And once again your counsel is very wise, revealing answers to help us be better. Should have waited until I could have handled it better. I can't imagine what they deal with.


All too familiar. Being able to see this in writing helps. It’s something to remind of how I don’t want to be Another blind spot. 😞

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