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My Dilemma


In the past, I have let my circumstances dictate my mood, future, education, finances, employment, etc. Sometimes, circumstances seem so overwhelming that I am frozen in time or so reactionary that I make choices abruptly without adequate research.


"Circumstances don't make the man; they only reveal him to himself." Epictetus

Epictetus, the Greek philosopher, advocated for the mastery of one's mind in the face of external events. He emphasized the power of perception and choice, asserting that our responses to situations define our character. According to him, challenges, and adversities function as mirrors, reflecting our genuine selves. When confronted with trials, we either embrace resilience or succumb to despair—a testament to our inner nature.


Today, I want to see my circumstances as mere occurrences. I want my reactions to them to sculpt my destiny positively. I want my challenges to unveil my strengths and weaknesses, and I want to see that circumstances serve as catalysts for growth, offering a glimpse into my potential.


My willingness to be authentic and acknowledge my emotions and vulnerabilities becomes the cornerstone for growth when facing these challenging dilemmas.


Who I am is not shaped by external factors but rather by how I navigate life's complexities. Adversity acts as a litmus test, exposing my core values, beliefs, and resilience.


If I face financial turmoil, I can crumble under despair or channel my inner resolve, seeking opportunities amidst chaos. The circumstances remain the same, yet my responses unveil my true character.


While these dilemmas may test me, my response, resilience, authenticity, and willingness to grow will ultimately define who I will be. Embracing this philosophy empowers me to navigate life's uncertainties with grace, knowing that within every challenge lies an opportunity for self-discovery.


Viktor Frankl says, "When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."

How about you? Do you allow your dilemmas to dictate who you are and how you show up, or do you use circumstances to sculpt your destiny?


Watch for the blind spots.




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