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Rust in relationships

You remember the Tin Man in the Wizard of Oz?

If he was out in the elements or neglected and not protected he would rust.

The longer that rust exists without attention, the more damage it causes.

If left unmaintained, it will ruin.

I call ‘resentments’ rust in relationships.

This is a term I have coined to compare relationships that are in trouble.

Rust is silent and destructive. Resentments are the same.

Poor communication in our culture seems to me to be the largest contributor to creating this kind of rust.

Resentments in relationships create avoidance, distance, and misunderstandings. [Blind Spot]

If poor communication creates a rusty relationship, then it stands to reason healthy relationships are a result of honest open feedback.

What was it that the Tin Man needed to resolve his rusty situation?


I like to say that the ‘oil’ that prevents rust (resentments) in relationships consists of honesty, compassion, openness, and emotionally mature conflict resolution.

Let us look for opportunities to connect, rather than create more resentment and corrosion.

Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.

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