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What is the secret to advancing at work or building a better family?

It is easy to spot the things others are doing wrong and impede my success at home or on the job.

I hear these questions or comments related to work, "Why do they do it that way? Why don't they include me more?" My suggestions are ignored. I am disregarded while things are going well, but I am constantly involved when things derail.

In families', similar questions are asked, "Why do they argue so much? Why do they not listen, or do I have to raise my voice to be heard or say the same thing ten times? Why do I remind them about chores, homework, manners, and our family's everyday things?"

I love Jim Rohn's quote, "You must work harder on yourself than on your job."

When I play the victim at work, I come across as weak and more problematic than contributing. Whining and living in the negative identifies me as a weak team player.

Ineffective or inadequate contributors negatively influence the strength of a team. It is the leaders' job to identify and correct these employees. Can you hear this? If correction is difficult or impossible, the team and company will limp along carrying the low producers. The more I work on myself at work, the better things go for me.

Where did you learn to be in a relationship? Is that working? If it is, keep it up. If it's not, where can you find relationship education?

Where did you learn to parent? Is that working? If so, keep it up. If not, how do you get more training and education to make it better? We spend so much time educating ourselves in our work roles and little time in family or team roles.

Some of the greats I listen to report they spend 10% of their income on training. Wow, that sounds like a lot. It is not just education for work but to improve social, work teams, and family success. My investment in my training has been invaluable.

The more I concentrate on people I can't change, the more helpless and ineffective I become. The more I focus on what I can do, the more hopeful, optimistic, and productive I become in all areas of my life.

How are you doing with your continued education for life in general?

Watch for the blind spots.

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Blind Spots in Relationships

What I don't know I don't know about myself

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