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When you don't know what you don't know

So there you are, and all of the sudden you hear ‘that song’ that reminds you of ‘that person.’

And you are emotionally hijacked—just like that. Good or bad, the song interacts with the emotions you have connected with it and it bugs you all day long.

“How could they leave?”, “What did I do?”, “Could things have been different?”

Or perhaps you walk into work and, without you realizing it, you are put off by a coworker's expression because it makes you think of your father when he was at his most critical of you.

Come to find out, the co-worker actually has chronic health issues and their facial expression has nothing to do with you, and they are actually wondering why you will not speak to them.

We can often assign meaning where it doesn’t even exist.

Blind spot—reaction. Blind spot—reaction. Blind spot—reaction.

When you find yourself thinking, “I’ve been here before…this is a familiar painful or frustrating situation…why am I back in this situation again?”

It is a sure sign there is a relationship blind spot there.

Pay close attention to these reactions and take responsibility for the fact that some type of unprocessed emotional pain is at the root.

This opens you to a deeper understanding of yourself, exposes the blind spot, improves connection, and helps you move passed assigning meaning to things that don’t even exist.

Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.

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Blind Spots in Relationships

What I don't know I don't know about myself

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