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Check Engine

Ugh, that pesky "little light."

Did it make you pause and cause a little anxiety?

You have already got enough going on, right?! Now, this?!

Acting out of my anxiety is what I call “going out of control to gain control.”

Have you ever gone out of control to gain control?

I have many times and didn’t know it.

My intentions had to do with controlling others or a situation in which I had no control.

I sometimes say God did not give me a “check engine” light.

If I did have a check engine light that showed my anxiety is overriding my intellect, it would be easy for me to recognize, disengage, and be sure that I do not cause more damage to myself, the other person, or the relationship.

When I feel stressed or attacked, it brings rise for me to need to get bigger and louder.

Going out of control to gain control takes me out of the logical, rational part of my brain.

It ensures I will become much less "emotionally mature" and feel I must resort to "survival mode."

Now I recognize God did give me a “check engine light.”

Paying attention to my emotions, allows me to be in control of my choices and enables me to build a better me.

I can begin to seek self-control and identify what is going on with my body, and mind.

I have to remember the only thing I have control of is me.

Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you.

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