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What's not being said?

Stress in relationships is a common phenomenon that can arise for various reasons. It can be caused by external factors such as financial issues, job-related stress, health problems, parenting disagreements, and many more. Stress can also be induced by internal factors such as communication breakdowns, misunderstandings, and differences in expectations or values.

Robin and Ralph, my favorite couple, have been struggling with financial stress. Like many couples, this can get out of control quickly. They are both aware of it, but neither is talking about it. Whenever other issues arise, like problems with the children or work, both are very short-fused and quickly get into an argument. The source of the argument is their unresolved financial issue, but disagreements appear, masking the real problem. Because they cannot see the real source, stress permeates their thinking and behavior. [Blind Spot]

This financial stress is harming them. As witnessed in their current struggles, it can lead to feelings of anxiety, frustration, and resentment resulting in a relationship breakdown if left unaddressed. They fear bringing it up will cause worse problems, so the finances go unaddressed. [Blind Spot]

This is a classic situation where it's not what we say, it is what we don't say that causes relationship problems.

It is a perfect time to tell each other what they think about this haunting issue. For some reason, this conversation is avoided. I'll let you guys apply their stories to your own lives.

When issues go unresolved, we set our relationships up for degradation, if not failure. Talking is the key to reducing stress, and facing problems as a team rather than enemies can facilitate resolution.

When managing stress in relationships, it is essential to identify the root cause and communicate openly and honestly with your partner.

Ultimately, managing stress in relationships requires effort and commitment from both partners, as well as a willingness to communicate to find solutions and overcome challenges.

How about you? Are there masked situations in your relationships that are causing stress and resentment?

What is not being said that needs to be said?

Watch for the blind spots.

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Blind Spots in Relationships

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What do you think some basic approaches or ground rules might be for a couple to start or hold such a conversation?

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