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I often find myself hanging out in what is familiar rather than what is good for me. Choosing to hang out in these environments that are either beneficial or detrimental can breed familiarity over time. [Blind Spot] Often, I develop routines and habits that align with what I consider good for me, such as spending time with supportive friends, engaging in healthy activities, or pursuing personal growth. On the other hand, I might also fall into patterns that are not conducive to my well-being, such as being in toxic relationships, indulging in harmful behaviors, or engaging in self-sabotaging tendencies. Whether it helps me or hurts me, this familiarity can eventually make me feel at ease, because it’s comforting, and provides a sense of predictability and stability. However, it is critical to recognize that familiarity doesn't equate to what is truly good for me. [Blind Spot] Recognizing this contradiction is crucial for my personal development and well-being. It prompts me to assess my choices and discern whether they align with my values and aspirations. If I find myself stuck in negative patterns, it may require courage and self-awareness to break away from the comfort of familiarity and seek healthier alternatives. Jim Rohn believed that to achieve greatness and success in life; we must break free from the confines of our comfort zones and explore new horizons. Rohn famously said, "Your life does not get better by chance; it gets better by change." Embracing what is genuinely good for me might involve: Stepping into the unknown. Trying new experiences. Surrounding myself with people who inspire and support my growth. Additionally, being mindful of these familiar traps leading to adverse outcomes enables me to make conscious decisions to break free from such cycles. While it’s challenging to let go of familiarity in these situations, doing so leads to personal transformation and a healthier, more fulfilling life. Familiarity can either serve me well or hold me back. Discerning between what is genuinely good for me and what feels familiar, empowers me to make positive changes. Embracing the good may require stepping into the unknown, while breaking away from negative patterns demands courage. Through these choices, I set out on a path of personal development and build a life that is consistent with my true values and objectives. How about you? Are your familiar choices good or bad for you? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from discovering blind spots, like, share or comment on this post. I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #mondaymotivation #mondaymood #mondaymorning #mondaythoughts #blindspots #counselingworks #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindsetiseverything #bayharbourumc #counseling #successcoach #goodorbad #authorsofinstagram #relationships #work #communication #familiarity #bettertogether #wisdom #bebetter

In a previous post, I revealed how discovery vs disclosure had an impact in the workplace. This post uses the same concept in relationships. The interplay between discovery and disclosure can profoundly impact the dynamics between two individuals in intimate relationships. This delicate and complex dance involves sharing vulnerabilities and truths, where the fear of upsetting one’s partner can impede the willingness to disclose essential matters. Ralph and Robin were a deeply committed couple, sharing a loving bond built on trust and understanding. However, a few months into their relationship, Robin stumbled upon a revelation about Ralph's past that she found troubling. She was conflicted. Robin chose to keep her discovery to herself, hoping that time would heal her discomfort and that the issue might eventually fade away. Little did she know that withholding the information would prove detrimental. As the months passed, Robin's internal struggle grew, and the distance between her and Ralph widened. The weight of her discovery became unbearable, and it began to manifest in her behavior toward him. Ralph sensed the change but was unaware of its root cause. Finally, during a heated argument about an unrelated matter, Robin's emotions overwhelmed her, and she blurted out her discovery. The room fell silent, and both felt a mix of shock, hurt, and confusion. Ralph was stunned by his error in failure to disclose, while Robin regretted not revealing the information earlier. Ralph's choice not to disclose precipitated this problem. This emotional breaking point served as a wake-up call for both Ralph and Robin and they realized the vital lessons this experience had to offer: While it can be challenging to share sensitive information, honesty is essential for building a foundation of trust and intimacy. It's natural to fear upsetting our partners but withholding important information can have more damaging consequences. While immediate disclosure might not always be possible, addressing sensitive matters at the right time is crucial. When trust is broken, both partners must be willing to engage in open dialogue and work towards rebuilding trust through empathy, forgiveness, and understanding. This underscores the delicate dance between discovery and disclosure in relationships. Fear and reluctance to disclose sensitive matters can have far-reaching consequences, hurting feelings and damaging trust. Emphasizing honesty, vulnerability, and timely communication is essential for navigating upset waters and fostering a stronger, more resilient relationship. Are you forthright in disclosing? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from discovering blind spots, like, share or comment on this post. I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book today. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #counselingworks #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #bayharbourumc #bekind #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #counseling #growtogether #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #communication #disclosure #discovery #mindsetiseverything #marriagecoach #relationships #help #relationshiptips #businesscoaching

In work environments, the clash between discovery and disclosure can be daunting, especially when fear and reluctance overshadow one's ability to speak up about potential problems. This predicament is often rooted in fear of repercussions, mainly when the individual involved hesitates to approach their boss with concerns that could affect a project or the company. Ralph's fear of his boss obstructs his willingness to communicate a problem, leading to disastrous consequences. Ralph is a dedicated and hardworking employee; while working on a project, he discovered a significant flaw that, if addressed, might have serious consequences for the client. However, the fear of his authoritative and intimidating boss loomed in Ralph's mind, causing hesitation to disclose the problem. Failure to disclose exacerbated as time passed. Ralph's anxiety grew proportionately. Despite the inner turmoil, he kept silent, hoping the issue would somehow resolve or go unnoticed. Unfortunately, the problem snowballed into a full-blown crisis, far worse than it would have been if addressed early on. The boss eventually discovered the oversight, and the consequences were dire—a loss of trust in Ralph's abilities and a negative impact on the company's reputation. The lessons derived from this story are crucial for both employees and employers alike: It is essential to create an environment where employees feel comfortable expressing their concerns without fear of retribution. Open communication channels empower employees and lead to early identification and resolution of issues. While it can be intimidating, voicing concerns respectfully and professionally is essential to fostering a healthy work environment. Ralph and his boss are both culpable. Problems rarely resolve themselves without intervention. Encouraging employees to report issues promptly can significantly minimize potential damage and allow timely solutions to be implemented. Recognizing that mistakes happen can lead to a greater focus on learning and growth. Reacting with anger and disappointment discourages open communication and hinders problem-solving efforts. Employees accepting responsibility for their work and being encouraged to take ownership of any challenges is healthy. Conversely, employers should acknowledge and appreciate such accountability. This tale of Ralph illustrates the high cost of silence in the face of discovery vs. disclosure. Fear and reluctance to communicate can lead to disastrous outcomes for individuals and organizations. Emphasizing open communication, overcoming fear of authority, and encouraging accountability are pivotal steps towards building a healthy work environment that thrives on addressing challenges head-on, fostering growth and success for all. How about you, is it difficult to disclose before discovery? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from discovering blind spots, like, share or comment on this post. I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #resetyourmind #changeyourlife #selfempowerment #mindset #bayharbourumc #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #relationshipsuccess #bettereveryday #blindspots #counselingworks #leadershipdevelopment #communication #relationshiptips #discovery #disclosure #letstalk #marriageandfamilytherapy #changeyourlife #selfempowerment #marriagecounseling #wednesday #WednesdayWisdom #wednesdayvibes

Throughout life, I have encountered an array of circumstances, both favorable and challenging. It is easy to allow these situations to define who I am, but the truth lies in how I react or respond to them. My character is unveiled in my responding which showcases the strength of my spirit, resilience, and capacity for growth. Positive or negative circumstances act as a stage upon which I perform. Just as a diamond is formed under pressure, my responses to life's trials transform me into something beautiful, resilient, and unbreakable. The key lies in recognizing I have the power to influence my life through the way I react or respond when faced with difficult situations. I have a unique set of experiences and challenges that shape my journey. I might face financial struggles, health issues, relationship woes, or career setbacks. It is vital to remember circumstances themselves are external factors beyond my control. So, what I can control is my response, my attitude, my determination, and my willingness to grow. My true character emerges when I face adversity head-on, refusing to be defeated by life's hurdles. I can demonstrate a resolute spirit by embracing challenges with patience, courage, and perseverance. I can turn setbacks into stepping stones and opportunities for self-improvement. Moreover, circumstances also reveal my capacity for empathy and compassion. When I encounter others in distress, my responses display my ability to understand and support them. Empathy opens doors to meaningful connections, fostering community and unity in the face of adversity. It's essential to recognize that I am not perfect. I will react in some moments of weakness, doubt, and vulnerability. However, it is precisely during these times that my true character can shine through. By acknowledging imperfections, I can then respond, learn from my mistakes, and emerge more robust than ever before. It’s not the circumstances I encounter that make me who I am but my reactions or responses to them. Life's trials reveal the core of my character, just like that diamond under pressure, an olive after being squeezed, or a teabag, you won't truly know your strength until you find yourself in hot water. By facing adversity with time, patience, and perseverance, I can overcome my circumstances and build a better me. I use the *Serenity Prayer as a powerful resource when facing my circumstances. Who are you when the circumstances of adversity arise? Watch for the blind spots. *Download printable resource: Serenity Prayer I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #mondaymotivation #mondaymood #mondaymorning #mondaythoughts #blindspots #counselingworks #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindsetiseverything #bayharbourumc #counseling #marriagecoach #buildabetteryou #buildabetterfuture #mentalhealth #relationships #work #communication #experience #love #parenting #bettertogether #Reactor #RESPONDER #REACTORRESPOND #characterdevelopment #wisdom #bebetter

Ralph and Robin are going through the rituals of life like so many other couples. The ability to offer their children great things is truly a blessing. However, the busyness of children and their activities, home chores, and work responsibilities can begin to drive a family’s schedule. Life can silently and unknowingly get out of control when the week is based on the schedules of children’s practices and competitions. It is too easy to add this item or that; without knowing it, we are unknowingly being led to chaos. This usually puts the marital relationship on the back burner, which can be dangerous. Without fostering that relationship, the family can begin to erode. A friend of mine offers their children one sport and one fine arts event per school semester or the summer. I appreciate the idea of providing opportunities yet restricting options to realistic schedules. I also like the idea of “calendar night.” At the end of each week, the couple sits down with the calendar and looks at the next week. The known events get posted on their shared calendar. The children’s activities and any anomalies in the adult schedules get posted. This is not ironclad, but a guide for the week. Here is the opportunity to see how they will handle the children’s activities—whether they need to do it separately or together. It is time for them to schedule their weekly date night, whether going out together or just setting aside time to be alone without the distractions of daily life stressors. After the week has been discussed, it is a great time to look six to eight weeks ahead and begin conversations about future holidays, trips, birthdays, anniversaries, or any other event that will require their participation. This helps focus the family's attention on impending events, keep them on track, and ensuring their priorities are met. Ralph and Robin are working on controlling their calendar rather than having their calendar control them. How are you doing with managing your family schedules? Watch for the blind spots. To help with this principle, I have a weekly calendar template you can download and print: https://www.jerrydclark.com/weeklycalendar If you know someone that could benefit from discovering blind spots, like, share or comment on this post. I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book today. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #counselingworks #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #bayharbourumc #bekind #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #counseling #growtogether #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #communication #mindsetiseverything #marriagecoach #relationships #help #relationshiptips #businesscoaching #scheduletoday #schedules #calendar #familycalendar #familytime #family

At one time, I considered myself an expert on almost everything. (Ridiculous, I know.) I believed that my knowledge and understanding was vast and infallible. It was a mindset rooted in arrogance and pride, uninformed of the breadth and depth of human intellect. I recall meeting an intriguing individual who challenged my self-proclaimed wisdom. He gently questioned my knowledge, prompting me to explore the depths of my understanding. Instead of brushing off his inquiries with defensiveness, I decided to embrace a new perspective—one that acknowledged my limitations and nurtured a sense of curiosity. With each interaction, I began to incorporate gently curious questions into my conversations. When someone shared their thoughts or insights, I would respond with gentle curiosity, "What else can you tell me about this?" This simple question unlocked a wealth of information that I had never considered. It led me down uncharted paths of knowledge, revealing ideas I had been blind to before. I discovered that questioning others about their thought patterns, such as, "How long have you been thinking that way?" deepened my understanding of their perspectives. It allowed me to grasp the evolution of their thinking, uncovering the experiences and insights that shaped their worldview. This not only broadened my own knowledge but also fostered empathy and connection with those around me. As my curiosity grew, so did my hunger for understanding. I asked, "Help me understand more of that thinking." This question encouraged others to share their reasoning, allowing me to see the ideas that had molded their thinking. It humbled me to realize that my initial assumptions were often oversimplified or incomplete. One question, in particular, remained close to my heart: "Where do you get all this knowledge?" This question acknowledged that wisdom is not a solitary pursuit but a collective endeavor. I discovered that people drew from many sources—books, experiences, conversations, and even their mistakes. The more I understood this, the more I appreciated the diversity of knowledge and the beauty of lifelong learning. In this journey of embracing humility, I give up my illusion and recognize, I don’t know it all. I embraced the power of gently curious questions, realizing that true wisdom is found in accepting the unknown rather than asserting one's expertise. I discovered that the more I acknowledged my limitations, the more I grew. Today, I continue to ask these gentle questions, eager to explore the vast expanse of knowledge and understanding. By acknowledging my ignorance and engaging with the insights of others, I have become a lifelong learner—a student of life's endless teachings, forever humbled by the vastness of the world and the wisdom of those around me. How about you, would gently curious questions help your knowledge? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from discovering blind spots, like, share or comment on this post. I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #resetyourmind #changeyourlife #selfempowerment #mindset #bayharbourumc #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #relationshipsuccess #bettereveryday #blindspots #counselingworks #leadershipdevelopment #communication #relationshiptips #marriageandfamilytherapy #changeyourlife #selfempowerment #marriagecounseling #wednesday #WednesdayWisdom #wednesdayvibes #communicationiskey #communicationmatters #KnowItAll #iknow #knowledgeispower

Looking back on their relationship, Ralph and Robin discussed what it was like when they first met and married and how the relationship had eroded over the years. As a young couple, they began their journey of love. Their love was vivid and passionate. They silently spoke their love by showing each other rather than telling each other; I love you. After three years and the addition of two children, they discussed how their lives and their relationship had changed. With the addition of parenting responsibilities, their focus shifted from each other to the needs of their little ones and work. The demands of work, sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and the whirlwind of daily chores began to take a toll on their once vibrant relationship. While their love lingered, they found themselves merely exchanging "I love you" as routine pleasantries, lacking the spark and warmth they once possessed. The passionate embraces and tender kisses turned into hurried pecks on the cheek, hastily given in passing. The love that once thrived on constant affirmation and affection began to wither in the face of life's demands. Now eight years have passed, and their once-emotional expression of love has become a distant memory. The weight of responsibilities and the monotony of routine had eroded the foundation they had built together. They remarked that the words "I love you" faded into the background, replaced by silence and unspoken indifference. They recognized that the absence of love's expression overshadowed their lives. Their conversations became superficial, centered on mundane matters rather than the deep connection they once shared. The little gestures of affection that brightened their days were replaced by empty routines devoid of genuine emotion. As they told their experience to their best friends, they realized how similar their story was. It is a heartbreaking reality that relationships can deteriorate with time. This story is a poignant reminder of the importance of nurturing love, even amidst life's challenges. Love requires consistent effort, communication, and a willingness to prioritize one another's needs, lest it fades away like a forgotten melody. Failure to maintain pursuit can give way to indifference. Does anything in their story sound familiar to you and your relationship? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from discovering blind spots, like, share or comment on this post. I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #mondaymotivation #mondaymood #mondaymorning #mondaythoughts #blindspots #counselingworks #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindsetiseverything #bayharbourumc #love #lovematters #Godslove #kids #counseling #marriagecoach #buildabetteryou #buildabetterfuture #mentalhealth #relationships #relationshipcoach #emotionsmatter #work #communication #experience #love #parenting #bettertogether #communicationiskey #communicationmatters #erosion #parentinglife #counseling #counselingworks #love #loveandkindness

Early in my life, I could be accused of being "a know it all." What a ludicrous and prideful experience to exhibit so that others would come to that conclusion. Indeed, I have areas of expertise, but now I realize how much I am limiting myself by not being open to learning new things. Looking back, I clearly see how my thoughts of being very knowledgeable have clouded my judgement. It is easy to form opinions based on available information. However, by acknowledging I am not "a know it all," I can open myself up to the possibility of new insights and deeper understanding. If I believe I have all the answers, I am susceptible to confirmation bias—the tendency to interpret information in a way that supports my preconceived notions. This can prevent me from considering alternative viewpoints or exploring fresh perspectives. I allow myself to be open to different viewpoints, which promotes growth and leads to better decision-making. Embracing uncertainty can be a powerful catalyst for personal and intellectual growth. It allows me to question my assumptions, challenge established norms, and seek more profound insights. When I recognize the limitations of my knowledge, I become more open-minded, curious, and receptive. When I acknowledge that I don't have all the answers, I invite collaboration and collective wisdom. Engaging in dialogue and seeking out diverse perspectives enables me to broaden my understanding and discover new possibilities. True clarity emerges when I am willing to explore different angles and remain receptive to evolving ideas. Recognizing the limits of my knowledge foster humility—an essential virtue for personal growth and harmonious relationships. When I accept that there is always more to learn, I approach conversations and challenges with an open mind, respecting the perspectives of others. Humility paves the way for genuine connections and a deeper understanding of the world around us. Although at one time, it was reassuring to believe that I know everything, it is crucial to recognize the power of uncertainty and allow it to lead me to a deeper, more comprehensive understanding of life. I will have more interesting conversations and explore learning opportunities that may have previously been off-limits by being humble, remaining teachable, and asking gently curious questions. (I will give some examples of this in my next post.) Today I recognize, “the more I know, the more I realize what I don't know.” How about you? Could too much knowledge be a limiting factor in building a better you? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from discovering blind spots, like, share or comment on this post. I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #mondaymotivation #mondaymood #mondaymorning #mondaythoughts #blindspots #counselingworks #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindsetiseverything #bayharbourumc #counseling #marriagecoach #buildabetteryou #buildabetterfuture #mentalhealth #relationships #work #communication #experience #love #parenting #bettertogether #communicationiskey #communicationmatters #KnowItAll #iknow #knowledgeispower

Have you ever considered living a life with no regrets? What an exciting quest this would be. I have lived many years and have accumulated many regrets. Regrets in life are the feelings of disappointment, sorrow, or remorse that arise when I look back on past decisions or actions and wish I had chosen differently. Regrets can create a burden of "what ifs" and "should haves," which may hinder my ability to embrace the present and move forward in life fully. However, regrets can also serve as valuable lessons, prompting self-reflection and offering insights that guide future decision-making. By acknowledging regrets, I can strive to make amends, take proactive steps toward desired goals, and make choices aligned with my values and aspirations. I have found work that isn't work at all, but doing what fulfills my soul. Work-life balance has been difficult because of my passion for it. My dad taught me to be an excellent worker, energetic, and unafraid to take on more significant projects. Thanks, Dad. As for spirituality, I have found that God's word is the best playbook for destiny. I marvel over God's creation in nature. I have become more thankful daily for those who have gone before me and influenced my path to follow Him. Thanks, Mom. My spiritual beliefs have allowed me to find calm in times of uncertainty and guidance in times of peril. Today I hang out in "the fourth quarter." Who knows, it may be the "two-minute warning." I am grateful that I have been given this life and humbly pray for those who suffer. I want to look back with a heart full of contentment. I have experienced the depths of love, achieved professional fulfillment, and cultivated meaningful relationships, all of which have nourished my soul. I want to live a life with no more regrets. I choose to be surrounded by loved ones and to leave a lasting legacy of love, inspiration, and fulfillment. I want to show others that it is possible to reach the finish line of life with no regrets by embracing the beauty of life we have all been given. How about you? Your legacy is being lived out today. How are you doing with regrets? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from discovering blind spots, like, share or comment on this post. I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #counselingworks #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #bayharbourumc #bekind #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #counseling #growtogether #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #communication #mindsetiseverything #marriagecoach #relationships #help #relationshiptips #businesscoaching #noregrets #noregret #regretnothing #Regret

Growing up, I experienced shame and embarrassment that left lasting imprints on my self-esteem. I struggled to find humor in myself because of the fear of being laughed at or judged by others. The mere thought of laughing at my mistakes or quirks would resurrect those old shameful feelings, reinforcing my insecurities. The path to being able to laugh at me was a challenging one. It required admitting that I had invented the concept of feeling blemished or unacceptable. I had to challenge this negative narrative I had internalized and redefine my perception of self-worth. Gradually, I realized that the ability to laugh at myself was not a sign of weakness but a demonstration of resilience and self-acceptance. A considerable shift for me came when I accepted and believed that God made me more than enough. I was equipped to be the man He made me to be. As I let go of the weight of shame, I found that laughter became a liberating force. It enabled me to accept and embrace my humanity, flaws, and all. Instead of dwelling on my mistakes or moments of awkwardness, I began to see them as opportunities for growth and valuable life lessons. Laughter became a tool to diffuse tension, build connections, and foster a lightheartedness that made life more enjoyable. The ability to laugh at myself has provided me with a sense of freedom and fun in my life. It has allowed me to approach challenges with a lighter perspective and a willingness to take risks. I've discovered that when I find humor in my missteps, I am less fearful of judgment from others. Laughing at myself has become an act of self-empowerment, reminding me that I am more than my mistakes and that vulnerability can be a source of strength. How about you? Did God make you enough or even more than enough? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from discovering blind spots, like, share or comment on this post. I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #resetyourmind #changeyourlife #selfempowerment #mindset #bayharbourumc #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #relationshipsuccess #bettereveryday #blindspots #counselingworks #leadershipdevelopment #communication #relationshiptips #marriageandfamilytherapy #laughatyourself #laughingisgoodforthesoul #laughteristhebestmedicine #laughterheals #changeyourlife #selfempowerment #marriagecounseling #wednesday #WednesdayWisdom #wednesdayvibes

Let me tell you what I need from you before I tell you what I am going to tell you. This statement gives the listener a clear expectation of what the speaker needs from the conversation. By clarifying what they need from the listener first, the speaker sets the context or establishes a basis for their upcoming communication. It indicates that the speaker wants to ensure the listener understands their needs or preferences before further discussing or sharing additional information. Unless this statement proceeds the conversation, the following communication blunders can derail what the speaker is attempting to convey. I am getting unsolicited advice. Too often, the speaker gets interrupted with advice before making their point, or they get advice when they want validation or confirmation. I feel they are trying to fix me. Again, before the speaker has made their point, telling them what or how they should have handled a situation is degrading, embarrassing and pompous. I feel they are telling me how a situation should be handled. Here again the listener can cause the speaker to feel discounted, inept, and out of touch. I get no response. They have yet to give a response because none was requested. Here the listener might not know the expectations and listens. The speaker can construe this as that they need to pay better attention. Telling what you need before telling what you want to tell is a request that allows the speaker to feel heard. It gives the listener great instructions to be more strategic in their reply. This statement gives the listener instructions that if followed, can cause more connection and understanding. It promotes continuity in conversation. How are you at getting your needs understood before you begin your conversation? Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from discovering blind spots, like, share or comment on this post. I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. If you want to find out more about discovering your blind spots get your book below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #blindspots #counselingworks #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #mindset #bayharbourumc #bekind #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #counseling #growtogether #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #communication #communicationblunders #communicationiskey #communicationmatters #mindsetiseverything #marriagecoach #relationships #help #relationshiptips #businesscoaching

I want to write about something a little different, another blind spot for you to uncover. It's the blind spot of “natural gifting.” One of the joys of what I do is assisting people to recognize their natural gifts. When I point them out, they don’t think there is anything special about these qualities. They are such a natural part of their personality and character, they just see them as “who they are.” “He or she is a natural…” it’s built-in, hardwired, ingrained, and often taken for granted. [Blind Spot] If something comes that easily, we tend to overlook it or think it must not be valuable. Because it is hidden from us and because it is our nature, we don’t always recognize who we are and how we show up. So often we think that making masterful and worthwhile contributions must be difficult. If it is hard to achieve or do, it must be worthwhile to pursue and more valuable to others and the world. Sometimes what comes easy, yes, our natural gifts, can produce our greatest contributions. We strive, research, train, focus, and encourage ourselves primarily to carry out activities that do not come naturally. We are constantly looking for our strengths and the most valuable contribution we can make. Don’t take me out of context, there is nothing wrong with working hard and challenging ourselves. However, I think we need to be reminded of the things we do “with our eyes closed.” The things that energize us as we are doing them are often our strengths in nature and gifting—and all too often our blind spots. Let’s all challenge ourselves to do more of the things we are naturally good at, where we feel like we are just being ourselves and can see that our incredible talent comes from within. Watch for the blind spots. If you know someone that could benefit from discovering their blind spots, share this post. Like or comment also, I appreciate your feedback and getting the message out. #resetyourmind #changeyourlife #selfempowerment #mindset #bayharbourumc #growthmindset #emotionalmaturity #relationshipsuccess #bettereveryday #blindspots #counselingworks #leadershipdevelopment #communication #relationshiptips #marriageandfamilytherapy #success #motivation #inspiration #inthistogether #changeyourlife #selfempowerment #marriagecounseling #wednesdaymotivation