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When I met Richard, he was known for his generosity and easygoing nature, which drew people to him. Friends, friends of friends, acquaintances—all found solace in his advice and willingness to help. Each problem he solved for them was like taking their monkey off their back and putting it on a leash. It felt helpful to assist, and he was always ready to stay connected, just in case. As time passed, others saw his ability to take on their problems. Bob was trying to buy a car, and Jon shared his financial woes. Eager to assist, Richard found himself with two monkeys on a leash. But as the cycle continued, he held so many monkeys on a leash that they tangled and tripped him as he moved down life's highway. He had a huge trench coat, and the monkeys enjoyed riding inside his coat rather than being on a leash. His coat of problems grew. What once started as a helpful gesture soon became a weight too heavy to bear alone. Each problem he accepted added to the collection of monkeys in his coat—unpaid bills, broken hearts, shattered dreams. Once a vessel of aid, the coat became an unbearable burden. It sagged with the weight of others' troubles, radiating a putrid stench that mirrored the weight of their sorrows. Despite the overwhelming load, Richard never turned away from anyone seeking help. People praised his resilience, unaware of the strain he carried. But even the most caring heart has its limits. Richard's life became like his coat of stinking monkeys. As he sought assistance for his miserable condition, he finally began to see his bulging coat, its shape distorted by the monkeys within. With a heavy heart, he realized he couldn't take on more. The stench of accumulated burdens became unbearable, suffocating his peace of mind. Contrary to his original thoughts, “They can't do this without me”; he began to release the monkeys individually. Each monkey scampered away into the night, carrying the burden it represented. As they departed, the coat lightened until it hung limp, relieved of the weight it once bore. Richard's shoulders began to feel lighter, understanding that while helping others was noble, carrying everyone's burdens wasn't sustainable. It was a lesson that to help others, he needed to protect his well-being first, then allow them to become independent. Can this be considered as “enabling?" How about you? Are you carrying other people's stinking monkeys? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #brenebrown #blindspots #selfimprovement #toastmasters #toastmastersinternational #bekind #vulnerability #selfish #humanitymatters #monkeyonyourback #monkeyonmyback #mindsetmatters #emotionalmaturity #perspectivematters #leadershipcoaching #leadership #wednesdayvibes #wednesdaywisdom #wednesdaymotivation #bettereveryday #betterme

As all relationships go, Ralph and Robin find themselves in the slump of catching each other doing things wrong or majoring on each other's minuses. They have lost the luster of love and started to engage in fault-finding. It has become a dance of criticism, where every misstep is magnified, and every flaw is scrutinized. Suppose Robin says that she does not receive enough communication, such as text messages, phone calls, or talking when he comes from work. In this case, she brings it to his attention in a manner that feels like complaining. Ralph will likely defend his actions or, even worse, attack back by pointing out her indiscretions or faults. Bingo! The discussion will continue with attack and defend, point, and blame. Now the argument may shift to pointing out how Robin is habitually late. This becomes the next battleground as one accuses the other of always being late, an apparent sign of disrespect for the other's time. Once this foundation is established in their relationship, communication becomes a point of contention, as one feels that the other does not effectively express themselves. Complaining or nagging is a sign of not feeling heard. It is repeating the same thing which does not produce any change. Complaints beget complaints. Talking to them about being their own cop and policing their actions when they get out of line or violate the law of relationships can be foreign to them. Relationships have a profound beauty when individuals choose not to play the role of the other's cop. Instead of policing each other's actions, they focus on self-improvement. The relationships blossoms when both partners take responsibility for their actions and strive to be the best version of themselves. Being able to listen, observe, and move out of the way of others can be endearing. To admit, rather than rationalize, minimize, or justify can be freeing for both parties. I call this “self-policing.” It is when Ralph and Robin look inward and identify areas for personal growth without blaming. This creates an attractive dynamic where individuals continually evolve for the relationship and their emotional well-being. How about you? Are you being the other's cop or are you self-policing? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #bettereveryday #blindspots #communication #betterme #clearlakeareachamber #police #PoliceYourself #relationalintelligence #emotionalintelligence #counseling #selfimprovement #mindsetmatters #bekind #toastmasters #relationshipcoach #jointheride #leadershipcoaching

I am often clouded by the fog of my concerns and desires. It is easy for me to succumb to the pitfalls of selfishness, judgmental attitudes, and self-righteousness. I need things to be like I want them. I want others to do things like I would do them. After all, that makes me feel more at ease and comfortable. How can I break free of these chains of nearsightedness? After all, I have the best ideas and ways of doing things. I know shortcuts that improve production and efficiency. What a challenging situation or life I create for myself and others when I think and act this way. I become more interested in convincing others to do it my way and alienate them from me. Yes, I push them away in my attempt (poor as it may be) to make life better for them. When I give up my consideration of others, empathy, and connection slip away. Most don't think the way I do, nor do they want to. Brene Brown's teachings remind me that true strength lies in my ability to embrace vulnerability and cultivate compassion, fostering connections that transcend my self-centered perspectives. Jim Rohn encourages a shift in focus from self-centeredness to contribution. He asserts that true fulfillment comes not from what we accumulate for ourselves but from the value we add to the lives of others. Rohn's philosophy challenges the notion of self-importance, redirecting our attention toward our broader impact on the world around us. Within my clamor of selfish desires and self-righteous convictions, dawns the realization that “I'm just not that important.” This humble acknowledgment does not diminish my worth or potential impact but releases me from self-centeredness. "I'm just not that important" becomes a liberating refrain. It invites me to step out of the shadows of self-centeredness and into shared humanity. My significance is not found in self-importance but in the compassionate connections and positive contributions I make in the lives of others. Are you making yourself too important? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #brenebrown #jimrohn #blindspots #selfimprovement #toastmasters #toastmastersinternational #bekind #vulnerability #selfish #humanitymatters #mindsetmatters #emotionalmaturity #perspectivematters #leadershipcoaching #leadership #wednesdayvibes #wednesdaywisdom #wednesdaymotivation #bettereveryday #betterme

When I say the Lord's Prayer or the Pledge of Allegiance, I test my memory rather than committing to the words that call me into action. How would I show up differently if I slowed down, said the words like I mean them, and committed to what I am saying? I get into routine mode and say the words so quickly they have little meaning or cause little or nothing to change. I live in a beautiful nation rich in opportunities, yet I take them for granted. When I am reminded of the devastation of war, as seen in the news today, I feel so blessed to have particular routines I can enjoy. Living on the Gulf Coast, we occasionally lose power and even the privilege of running water. It is inconvenient, but we usually know the restoral time, so I get to fuss for a little while, feeling fully justified. When I see refugees giving up all their routines of home and family, I can't imagine what it would be like without electricity, water, and food for my family. What a helpless, hopeless feeling that would be. I prefer (or have a burning desire) to be in control. If I couldn't ever turn on the lights or water or return to my home, I can't imagine what that would be like. I am so blessed with creature comforts that I can so easily take them for granted, just as I do the Lord's prayer and the pledge. Being intentional and strategic about the seemingly ordinary aspects of my life, whether in prayer, patriotic affirmations, or any other routine, enriches my experiences and renews my appreciation for all of my blessings. Ultimately, the choice to slow down and approach life intentionally is a powerful motivation to rediscover the depth and beauty woven into the fabric of my daily existence. I take for granted what others don’t get to have or enjoy. Too many times, I go to sleep at the wheel. How about you? Are you snared by routine and failing to smell the roses? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #mondaymood #mondaythoughts #mondaymotivations #bettereveryday #blindspots #toastmasters #mentor #emotionalintelligence #successcoach #successmindset #counseling #selfimprovement #mindsetmatters #bekind #relationshipadvice #routine #routinemode #repetition #stopandsmelltheroses #payitforward #relationshipcoach #jointheride

Veterans who wear hats or other memorabilia to distinguish themselves do so because they desire to be recognized for their service. I have the opportunity to speak with many of them. I understand some have mixed feelings when they hear "Thank you for your service." They may appreciate the acknowledgment and the recognition of their sacrifices, or the phrase can sometimes feel trite, almost cliché, and fail to capture the depth of their experiences and the challenges they've faced. "Thank you for your service" often highlights the disconnect between civilians and veterans. Civilians do not have a complete understanding of the complexities of military life. Even service members have a wide range of experiences, including deployment, from combat to non-combat roles and the difficulties they face when transitioning back to a civilian life. Veterans often feel as if they are being recognized without their civilian counterparts completely comprehending what they have gone through. It's crucial to understand that most people who say "thank you for your service" are sincere in their gratitude for the sacrifices made by veterans. Though sometimes the words don't fully express how they feel, they nonetheless mean to be respectful and appreciative. Veterans often appreciate authentic conversations that allow them to share their experiences, challenges, and triumphs. Instead of just saying, "Thank you for your service," asking curious questions can be engaging and meaningful. Questions like: When did you serve? Where did you serve? How long did you serve? These questions are highly engaging and provide much more than just gratitude. Providing a listening ear holds great significance. "Thank you for your service" is a well-intentioned expression of gratitude and most used when you encounter veterans. When time does not permit engaging in conversation, a sincere "Thank you for your service" is more than adequate. Tomorrow is Veterans' Day. I pray you have been enlightened by this week's posts. Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #bettereveryday #blindspots #communication #betterme #clearlakeareachamber #successcoach #successmindset #counseling #veteran #VeteransFamilies #veteransupport #VeteransDay #selfimprovement #mindsetmatters #bekind #toastmasters #relationshipcoach #jointheride #veterans #leadershipcoaching

I recall that just before I was deployed in August of 1966, I was on a 30-day leave. I had orders to deploy, but I had not shared them with Mom and Dad. I wanted to protect them as long as possible. About a week before I was to deploy, I found an opportunity to tell my dad. I recall the dreadful look on his face and the helplessness in his voice. I remember him distinctively saying, "Jerry, we don't want no heroes; we just want you back." Wow, those words rang in my ears for the next 13 months. Then, many years after my return, during an intimate conversation, he shared, "I cried every night you were gone." This was as difficult as it was honest for this tough old man to admit. Mom and Dad were vigilant in staying abreast of the war events through news articles and television news. The experience of having a veteran return from war can be rewarding and challenging for family and friends. It's essential to understand that each situation is unique, and the impact on loved ones can vary significantly depending on the veteran's experiences and the support systems in place. The return of a veteran often brings a sense of relief and joy to family and friends. Knowing that their loved one has returned safely from a potentially dangerous situation can be a cause for celebration. While the reunion is filled with joy and happiness, it can also be challenging as everyone adjusts to a new normal. Both veterans and their families have changed during this time. Some veterans may experience physical or mental health challenges due to their exposures. Some may suffer from imposture syndrome. This can be difficult for family and friends to understand. When veterans return, family and friends might feel a sense of loss, because the returning military men and women they knew before deployment may be different upon their return. Our culture focuses on the returning veteran. Please don't forget their families. Helping veteran families recover from these experiences can be a Godsend. Conversing with these families can be very rewarding for them and you. Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #mondaymood #mondaythoughts #mondaymorning #bettereveryday #blindspots #toastmasters #mentor #mentorship #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealth #veteran #VeteransFamilies #suicide #veteransupport #VeteransDay #counseling #purpose #selfimprovement #mindsetmatters #bekind #anxiety #ptsd #ptsdawareness #DepressionAndAnxietyAwareness #JoinTheRide

I remember it was January 1966. I left for San Diego, going to boot camp. I was full of patriotism, duty, and honor. "I, Jerry Clark, do solemnly swear that I will support and defend the Constitution of the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic; that I will bear true faith and allegiance to the same; and that I will obey the orders of the President of the United States and the orders of the officers appointed over me, according to regulations and the Uniform Code of Military Justice. So help me God." What a commitment. I was so proud to have volunteered to serve my country. Entering the military was a journey that required determination, intention, and unwavering dedication. I was trained in physical fitness and military readiness. In addition to the physical and mental aspects, military life requires a solid allegiance to honor, and integrity. We were expected to adhere to a strict code of conduct and embrace core values such as loyalty, duty, respect, selfless service, honor, integrity, and personal courage. Going into the military is a transformative process marked by fidelity, sacrifice, and resolution. It's a journey that molds individuals into capable, resilient, and honorable defenders of our country. The training we received is second to none, and the ability to perform is amazing. The teaching and molding are so good that it becomes challenging to forget what we learned when we return to civilian life. Not all veterans have a difficult time transitioning into civilian life, yet there are ones who do struggle for years. The Veterans Administration reports that 18 to 21 veterans commit suicide every day, yes, every day. We have a veteran’s group that meets every Thursday and has for the past almost 11 years. It is a place where veterans can come and tell their stories and feel supported by ones who understand and appreciate their experiences. Too many veterans today suffer from homelessness, relationships, legal issues, drugs and alcohol, employment issues, transitioning through the VA maze for benefits, and many other difficult circumstances. It is so easy to celebrate sports and entertainment magnates and overlook the ones who signed up to give all they had for the freedom of our nation. Do you remember that freedom isn't free? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #mondaymood #mondaythoughts #mondaymorning #bettereveryday #blindspots #toastmasters #mentor #mentorship #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealth #veteran #veteranshelpingveterans #suicide #veteransupport #VeteransDay #counseling #purpose #selfimprovement #mindsetmatters #bekind #anxiety #ptsd #ptsdawareness #DepressionAndAnxietyAwareness #jointheride

I often talk to folks about what they want. I hear answers like happiness, more money, a better job, better health, etc. I often find myself caught up in the same desires. Do I ever get enough of these things? The more I get, the more I want. What is one thing I waste more than anything? Time. Time is a precious commodity I possess. It's a limited resource, and once it's gone, I can never get it back. Unlike money, cars, houses, or even friends, time is finite and irreplaceable. In the hustle and bustle of daily life, where I focus on accumulating material possessions and pursuing various goals, the precious commodity of time goes ignored. I must remember that the ever-flowing hourglass constrains my desires. The sand doesn't stop. Considering the preciousness of time, I must also ask myself, "What do I want to accomplish?" "What do I want to do that I haven't yet done?" "How long am I going to live?" Am I purposefully pursuing my dreams and passions, striving to leave a positive impact on the world? Or am I just going through the motions, allowing my days to slip away? Time is a currency that can't be replenished, and as each day passes, it is one I never get back. Recognizing the value of time can be a powerful motivator for change and personal growth. It encourages me to prioritize what truly matters and to seize the day with enthusiasm. It is crucial to invest my time wisely in experiences, relationships, and pursuits that bring fulfillment and happiness. Time is my most precious asset, and it should be treated with the utmost respect. I am curious to know how much of it I have. By living purposefully and making the most of each moment, I create a life rich in memories, leaving a legacy of fulfillment and contentment. Time is a gift with an expiration date on it. How are you treating time? Do you have enough of it? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #betterme #bettereveryday #blindspots #communication #betterme #clearlakeareachamber #successcoach #successmindset #counseling #timing #timingiseverything #timeisprecious #outoftime #timeisagift #wastingtime #timepassesby #selfimprovement #mindsetmatters #bekind #toastmasters #relationshipcoach #jointheride #leadershipcoaching

Anger is a secondary emotion that doesn't exist without being fueled by negative primary emotions. This concept is fundamental in understanding the complex nature of anger and its effects on our emotional lives. When I experience anger, it is often triggered by deeper primary emotions, such as fear, hurt, frustration, or sadness. Exploring this idea can help me better manage my anger and address its root causes. When I feel threatened or unsafe, it is a natural response to protect myself. If I perceive a threat, anger can be a defense mechanism, signaling to others that I am not to be trifled with. This source of anger can result from a physical or an emotional threat. Hurt is another primary emotion that can give rise to anger. When someone's words or actions hurt me, anger often follows. This is because anger can serve as a shield, hiding my vulnerability and preventing further emotional harm. Rather than admit I'm hurt, I express my anger, attempting to regain control of the situation. Frustration escalates into anger when I can't achieve my goals because it provides an outlet for pent-up energy and aggravation. It is easier to express anger than admit feelings of powerlessness. Anger can emerge to cope with distressing feelings such as loss, disappointment, or a feeling of helplessness. One major negative event or an accumulation of minor negative events can spawn anger. This accumulation of small events I call 'the anger caldron'. It bubbles and seethes with unaddressed issues until the slightest negative event causes the caldron to explode, boiling over. Knowing that primary emotions fuel anger leads me to address the root causes and find healthier ways to manage them. This involves expressing primary emotions directly or seeking support from others. By doing so, I enhance my emotional intelligence, build better relationships, and lead a more fulfilling life. Anger is on a continuum ranging from mild irritation to intense rage, with various degrees in between. Trying to control anger without addressing its source is like putting out a fire by pouring water onto the flames. How are you doing with anger? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #blindspots #wednesday #bekind #WednesdayWisdom #wednesdayvibes #dailyhabits #betterme #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #bayharbourumc #bekind #mindset #toastmasters #bereal #bettertogether #emotions #emotionalintelligence #emotionalwellness #emotional #ClearLakeChamber #feelingsmatter #anger #angerissues #angermanagement #AngerProblems #angry #emotionsmatter #mindsetiseverything #toastmasters #businesscoaching #successcoach #dailyinspiration #betterme

Often, I find people I talk to are stuck in their roles in life. When I ask them what their purpose in life is, I get a variety of responses that are impacted by their current positions and responsibilities. This question has intrigued humanity for centuries and arose once survival was not the main priority. It's a profound question that elicits a wide array of responses, often rooted in one's personal beliefs, experiences, and perspectives. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer, here are some common themes I hear in response to the question, “What’s your purpose?” Serving God by following the teachings of Jesus and spreading His word. Christians are called to live a life of moral and ethical integrity, adhering to the values and principles outlined in the Bible, including avoiding sin, seeking forgiveness, and striving to live a righteous and holy life. Leaving a legacy that makes the world a better place Finding joy and happiness Teaching and education Creating innovation in technology Making more money Discovering medicine for healing Creating peace around them Being a mentor to others, being their example in life Having great families that train their children to live safe and prosperous, moral, and ethical lives, teaching them to carry on their legacy. Another common perspective is making a positive impact on the lives of others. Achieving this through acts of kindness, charity, mentorship, or service to one's community and the world. We must know our purpose to know we are doing what we must do. Can you write down your purpose in life? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #mondaymood#mondaythoughts #mondaymotivations #bettereveryday #blindspots #toastmasters #mentor #mentorship #MentorshipMatters #emotionalintelligence #successcoach #successmindset #counseling #purpose #whatsyourpurpose #purposefulliving #purposedriven #selfimprovement#mindsetmatters #bekind #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #jointheride

Too many times, I hear these words, "I've said it a million times, but no one is listening, and there is no change." These words are usually muttered in frustration, a cry for help, a plea for understanding, and a desire to connect. It is truly exasperating to experience the feeling of desperately trying to convey a message only to have it seemingly fall on deaf ears. I call it the unheard clanging gong. On the other side of the conversation, I hear, "They are always griping and complaining and never give me a break." Wow, both parties are frustrated and upset with the other, and the conversation becomes noisy and silent simultaneously. The feeling of being unheard can be an overwhelmingly isolated experience. Watching as others go about their lives, seemingly unaware of the importance of the message attempting to be delivered, is like shouting in a crowded room, only to be met with chilly stares. As time goes on, the unheard clanging gong becomes disheartened and disenchanted. They begin to withdraw, feeling ignored, unimportant, and abandoned. The weight of their unheard words presses down, making them feel like they are carrying an invisible burden. The experience of nagging and complaining sets up the justification for retreat and disengagement. Then, the inevitable happens. The person who didn't hear the message is left surprised and bewildered when they find themselves alone or facing an unexpected turn of events. "Why didn't you tell me?" they ask, their confusion mirroring the unanswered cries of the unheard clanging gong. It is the duty of the sender of the message to get the message across. Important information should be communicated through various mediums, such as speaking, writing, texting, or leaving a voicemail. If these attempts fail, consider involving another to help convey the message. The unheard clanging gong reminds the listener of the importance of active listening and empathy in relational interactions. Hearing quiet voices and appreciating the significance of the messages hidden beneath the surface is essential in healthy relationships. Improving communication through intentional speaking and active listening can help prevent frustration for the speaker and abrupt surprises for the listener. How about you? Is there griping and complaining or an unheard clanging gong in your relationship? Watch for the blind spots. I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #fridayvibes #friday #fridaymotivation #betterme #bettereveryday #blindspots #communication #CommunicationIsKey #communicationtips #communicationmatters #betterme #toastmasters #clearlakeareachamber #successcoach #successmindset #counseling #selfimprovement #mindsetmatters #bekind #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #jointheride #leadershipcoaching

On June 26th, I posted an article about my veteran friend Anthony. He is an amazing man who spent three tours in Iraq and Afghanistan as a U.S. Marine who gave up everything that may have resembled a normal life for those ten years of active duty. He came back home, but not to the home that most of us have tried to build; it has been filled with challenge after challenge. Suffering from PTSD and its effects on his psyche cost him a normal return to society. Anthony struggled to hold his family together. Always serving and giving back, he took in a long-time homeless friend who was going blind from cataracts while negotiating his way through the well-meaning but sometimes less-than-efficient Veterans Administration. In the meantime, Anthony's home that housed his family became dilapidated and unlivable. That's where good news finally intervened and stopped the downward spiral of depression that weighed on his shoulders. Hearing something that raises our spirits and re-establishes our faith in human kindness is refreshing. Through the Veterans Housing Rehabilitation and Modification Program, SBP addresses this problem by modifying or rehabilitating eligible veterans' primary residences at no cost. Anthony was informed of SBP and was approved for a $40,000 grant housing-based program to restore his residence to livable condition. He also received a promise from the Bay Harbor Methodist Church in League City to provide additional assistance to help cover other needs. In addition, many of you donated funds to help him rebuild. These funds allowed him to reestablish electricity in his home. I often wonder how many dedicated veterans are going through something similar to my friend. Thanks to so many wonderful people who have stepped up and supported Anthony. This combat veteran has served to protect us at home and abroad, and now his family can live in appropriate housing, lessening the strain upon his broad shoulders. Thanks, are never enough for all of you who support one of the most generous men I know. I love you, Anthony, you are my hero, and I am so proud to see you receive some of what you have given. Sometimes, we have things going on in our backyard, and we don't even know it. Watch for the blind spots. More information/updates: Facebook: Anthony walk through damage house: https://youtu.be/KIL6jolcwGI?si=ONKbTag2lEtrMV-D Original gofundme.com with updates: https://www.gofundme.com/f/army-veteran-house-repairs I appreciate your feedback, please like, share or comment. Get your copy of Blind Spots in Relationships. Discover the hidden behavior that can be holding you back from the relationships you desire. #blindspots #wednesday #bekind #WednesdayWisdom #wednesdayvibes #dailyhabits #betterme #mindsetmatters #bettereveryday #myhero #myheroes #heroes #herosjourney #HeroesAmongUs #veteran #veteransupport #gofundme #gofundmecampaign #giveback #payitforward #veteranshelpingveterans #veterans #bayharbourumc #blaming #bekind #mindset #toastmasters #bereal #ClearLakeChamber #bettertogether