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I encourage you to stay on the curious side, not the fixing side. I do not want the ones that I love to be sad, in a negative mood, or emotional. Too many times 'fixing' is my intent when I see someone suffering. If their emotional state makes me emotional, I may want to help override their emotions by fixing or offering suggestions to get them out of that emotional state. [BLIND SPOT] Asking what I call 'gently curious questions' is often a fun and beneficial way to bring something to the table which causes their mood to shift. 'Gently curious questions' softly probe the thoughts and ideas of a person in a way that causes them to learn more about themselves. It allows them to drill down and get to the deeper meaning of the circumstances that may be contributing to their problems or conditions. A few examples of GCQ's are: • What do you need from me? • I’m confused, can you elaborate? • Help me understand? 'Gently curious questions' gives me knowledge I do not obtain if I am always trying to fix people. Stay on the curious side! Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you. Feel free to share your thoughts, like, and share these posts. PLEASE NOTE: Sign up to publish your comments. Login with your email, this gives permission and authentication to publish your content on the site. Click "Sign Up" and login with your email and confirm, once you are signed in you will not have to do it again when you return. It only takes a sec and I want to thank you for your feedback. If you haven't already gotten your copy of my new book, it's available below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #bettereveryday #blindspots #mindsetmastery #leadershipcoaching #counselingworks #buildingrelationships #communicationiskey #inspiration #leader #people

Looking back, I could rationalize, minimize, and justify anything. [BLIND SPOT] The more hidden the blind spots, the more I say and do things that I will feel remorse about later. People who rationalize, minimize, and justify are frustrating to attempt to communicate with and do not realize it. They utilize the 'filibuster,' an excessive use of words to deflect meaning or place decoys that draw the focus on the perceived accusation. I see them as slippery fish, wiggling, struggling, jerking, trying to get away without connecting. I have found in myself and others that acting more emotional than intellectual during the height of anxiety causes regretful actions and decisions. In 'anxiety up' situations, we need to stop, focus and gain control as quickly as possible—not discussing anything further until we feel more in control. Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you. Feel free to share your thoughts, like, and share these posts. PLEASE NOTE: Sign up to publish your comments. Login with your email, this gives permission and authentication to publish your content on the site. Click "Sign Up" and login with your email and confirm, once you are signed in you will not have to do it again when you return. It only takes a sec and I want to thank you for your feedback. If you haven't already gotten your copy of my new book, it's available below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #bettereveryday #blindspots #mindsetmastery #leadershipcoaching #counselingworks #buildingrelationships #communicationiskey #inspiration #leader

Ugh, that pesky "little light." Did it make you pause and cause a little anxiety? You have already got enough going on, right?! Now, this?! Acting out of my anxiety is what I call “going out of control to gain control.” Have you ever gone out of control to gain control? I have many times and didn’t know it. My intentions had to do with controlling others or a situation in which I had no control. I sometimes say God did not give me a “check engine” light. If I did have a check engine light that showed my anxiety is overriding my intellect, it would be easy for me to recognize, disengage, and be sure that I do not cause more damage to myself, the other person, or the relationship. When I feel stressed or attacked, it brings rise for me to need to get bigger and louder. Going out of control to gain control takes me out of the logical, rational part of my brain. It ensures I will become much less "emotionally mature" and feel I must resort to "survival mode." Now I recognize God did give me a “check engine light.” Paying attention to my emotions, allows me to be in control of my choices and enables me to build a better me. I can begin to seek self-control and identify what is going on with my body, and mind. I have to remember the only thing I have control of is me. Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you. Feel free to share your thoughts, like, and share these posts. PLEASE NOTE: Sign up to publish your comments. Login with your email, this gives permission and authentication to publish your content on the site. Click "Sign Up" and login with your email and confirm, once you are signed in you will not have to do it again when you return. It only takes a sec and I want to thank you for your feedback. If you haven't already gotten your copy of my new book, it's available below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #bettereveryday #blindspots #fridaymotivation #mindsetmastery #leadershipcoaching #counselingworks #buildingrelationships #communicationiskey #inspiration #leader

We do not have to make a decision for change to happen. It happens with or without our consent. While every relationship experiences change over time, not all relationships experience growth. Why? Growth is optional, it only happens with our consent and when we make the decision. We must keep looking for the blind spots, our finest discovery in establishing emotional maturity and growth. Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you. Feel free to share your thoughts, like, and share these posts. PLEASE NOTE: Sign up to publish your comments. Login with your email, this gives permission and authentication to publish your content on the site. Click "Sign Up" and login with your email and confirm, once you are signed in you will not have to do it again when you return. It only takes a sec and I want to thank you for your feedback. If you haven't already gotten your copy of my new book, it's available below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #BetterEveryDay #inspiration #leader #mindset #blindspots #leadershipcoaching

Often, we desire to hang on to the truth we know, seeking to prove the other wrong, as opposed to graciously considering their differing perspective or point of view. I can respect your point of view and keep mine also. Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you. Feel free to share your thoughts, like, and share these posts. PLEASE NOTE: Sign up to publish your comments. Login with your email, this gives permission and authentication to publish your content on the site. Click "Sign Up" and login with your email and confirm, once you are signed in you will not have to do it again when you return. It only takes a sec and I want to thank you for your feedback. If you haven't already gotten your copy of my new book, it's available below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself NOW AVAILABLE in "eBook" format on Amazon kindle. #BetterEveryDay #inspiration #leader #mindset #blindspots #leadershipcoaching #respect #truth

Pride is what you feed on to justify to yourself why you didn’t get what you wanted. [ Blind Spot ] Blind spots cause enormous difficulties because we are unaware of their influence on our behavior. At the end of the day, all I can do is change my reaction, response, and behavior. No one else can do that for me or make me do it. Discovering and exposing hidden blind spots doesn't happen overnight. If you will consistently change a few small actions or behaviors daily you will create successful new habits. Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you. Feel free to share your thoughts, like, and share these posts. PLEASE NOTE: Sign up to publish your comments. Login with your email, this gives permission and authentication to publish your content on the site. Click "Sign Up" and login with your email and confirm, once you are signed in you will not have to do it again when you return. It only takes a sec and I want to thank you for your feedback. If you haven't already gotten your copy of my new book, it's available below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself NOW AVAILABLE in "eBook" format on Amazon kindle. #BetterEveryDay #inspiration #leader #mindset #blindspots #leadershipcoaching

Life is more enjoyable if you steer clear of other people's business. This is a good place to start looking for [Blind Spots] Discovering and overcoming hidden blind spots is a vulnerable process. Trust me, I have been completely unaware of destructive habits and behaviors which were causing me problems in relationships. Let's start making a conscious choice to steer clear of other people's business and see just how enjoyable and freeing it can be when we mind our own. Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you. Feel free to share your thoughts, like, and share these posts. PLEASE NOTE: Sign up to publish your comments. Login with your email, this gives permission and authentication to publish your content on the site. Click "Sign Up" and login with your email and confirm, once you are signed in you will not have to do it again when you return. It only takes a sec and I want to thank you for your feedback. If you haven't already gotten your copy of my new book, it's available below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself #BetterEveryDay #MentalToughness #servantleadership #depression #anxietyawareness #stressmanagement #counselingworks #inspiration

I am thrilled to announce the launch of my site, www.jerrydclark.com, and the launch of my new book, Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself. I have uncovered life-altering strategies, principles, and methods that have empowered and changed lives. My desire is to distill these insights to impassion you to reach your full potential without limits. I want to challenge you to drop the struggles of the past, lean forward, and build a better you. I refuse to sit back and allow life to happen but to stay heavily involved with making a positive difference for myself and others who will accept the challenge to look at their blind spots. Keep looking for the blind spots and building a better you. Feel free to share your thoughts, like, and share these posts. PLEASE NOTE: Sign up to publish your comments. Login with your email, this gives permission and authentication to publish your content on the site. Click "Sign Up" and login with your email and confirm, once you are signed in you will not have to do it again when you return. It only takes a sec and I want to thank you for your feedback. If you haven't already gotten your copy of my new book, it's available below. Blind Spots in Relationships What I don't know I don't know about myself Get Your FREE PDF ACTION GUIDE When you read or hear something of value to you, write it down. Take action to keep them where you can go over them again and again. This action guide will assist you in this manner as you explore the concepts in Blind Spots in Relationships. It will be your companion guide for growth, change, and emotional maturity. We have designed it for this reason: writing things down helps you to clarify and locate exactly what is happening the moment you are going through it. ​ *Action Guide Download 8.5x11, 88pg Printable pdf.