In the Marines, I learned that discipline doesn’t just keep me alive, it keeps me centered when chaos hits. I didn’t quit because it hurt or felt unfair. I adapted, refocused, and marched forward.   That same principle applies in emotional healing. In counseling, I often meet veterans who survived combat but now face a different kind of enemy, their own untrained emotions. They’ve been taught to endure, not to feel. But emotional resilience requires both strength and surrende

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