Actions That Speak for Me
There have been times when I’ve said the same thing repeatedly, and nothing changed. I used to get frustrated. “I’ve told them a...
Jerry Clark
Apr 252 min read
Speaking Truth
There’s a fine line between being honest and being hurtful. People often say, “I’m just being honest,” but what they really mean is, “I...
Jerry Clark
Apr 72 min read
Secrets Kill
Relationship secrets often start small and are meant to protect, avoid conflict, or spare someone’s feelings. But they quietly erode...
Jerry Clark
Mar 312 min read
Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG)
I have mentioned our veterans meeting each Thursday evening at our church. It was formed to see what could be done about the veteran...
Jerry Clark
Dec 4, 20232 min read
Do I have to?
Many years ago, a good friend of mine, JD, from our church was having kidney failure and had to go to dialysis three times a week. His...
Jerry Clark
Nov 27, 20232 min read
Rich or Poor
Not long ago, I was talking to an elderly couple. I laughed and cried when I spoke to this couple who told me, "When we got married, we...
Jerry Clark
Nov 24, 20232 min read
You Are Not My Cop
As all relationships go, Ralph and Robin find themselves in the slump of catching each other doing things wrong or majoring on each...
Jerry Clark
Nov 17, 20232 min read
Routine Mode
When I say the Lord's Prayer or the Pledge of Allegiance, I test my memory rather than committing to the words that call me into action....
Jerry Clark
Nov 13, 20232 min read
Veterans Families
I recall that just before I was deployed in August of 1966, I was on a 30-day leave. I had orders to deploy, but I had not shared them...
Jerry Clark
Nov 8, 20232 min read
Veterans
I remember it was January 1966. I left for San Diego, going to boot camp. I was full of patriotism, duty, and honor. "I, Jerry Clark, do...
Jerry Clark
Nov 6, 20232 min read
The Secondary Emotion
Anger is a secondary emotion that doesn't exist without being fueled by negative primary emotions. This concept is fundamental in...
Jerry Clark
Nov 1, 20232 min read
What's Your Purpose?
Often, I find people I talk to are stuck in their roles in life. When I ask them what their purpose in life is, I get a variety of...
Jerry Clark
Oct 30, 20232 min read
Mentors
George was my mentor from 1996 until he passed away in December 2020. He was one of the most amazing men I have ever known. He was a...
Jerry Clark
Oct 23, 20232 min read
Two Dollars' Worth of Guff
Ralph and Robin have been married for 11 years. They have a fractured relationship. It has been eroding for the past three years. It has...
Jerry Clark
Oct 16, 20232 min read
Tiny steps consistently over time lead to success.
Go big or go home. We have all heard it, tried it, or failed at it. Truth be told too many times when you "go big or go home" you often...
Jerry Clark
Aug 5, 20223 min read
Defensiveness
My friend Paula made this comment on the “Blame” post: “This is a great one! Would you please do a blind spot post on defensiveness?...
Jerry Clark
Aug 3, 20224 min read
Self-built glasshouses of pain
We put up walls to keep the pain out and wind up cementing the hurt in. We keep emotional pain inside and build walls around us thinking...
Jerry Clark
Jul 14, 20222 min read
Trust is the cement...
Riddle me this—what takes effort to build, is easy to ruin, and is essential to any emotionally healthy relationship? TRUST. Trust is the...
Jerry Clark
Jul 12, 20222 min read
Once upon a time...
Once upon a time, an old Cherokee told his grandson about a great battle he would face. The grandson sat down to listen. He was eager and...
Jerry Clark
Jun 19, 20222 min read
Let me tell you what I need from you...
“Let me tell you what I need from you before I tell you what I’m gonna to tell you.” —Jerry D Clark When you begin to talk and do not...
Jerry Clark
Jun 16, 20222 min read