
Jerry Clark
- May 29, 2022
- 2 min
Build a better family
How do you build a family that meets life head on with strategic and intentional purpose? Families are complex social systems consisting of individuals with unique interpersonal struggles. As parents, there must be a clear line of communication and no competition between them. There must be understanding, support, common goals, and the ability to recognize their own strengths and weaknesses, melding them into a common future that unites and does not divide. Here are principle
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Jerry Clark
- May 26, 2022
- 2 min
Parents are the pinnacle of the household
Kids should be allowed to ‘go between’ parents but never allowed to ‘come between’ them. It seems almost innate for a child to ask one parent for something and if they do not get what they want, go to the other parent. Parents cannot be split in the decision-making process. When parents are not in harmony, requests by the children can cause parental conflict, allowing the child to get their way while the parent's debate, argue, fight or walk away and say nothing. In certain s
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Jerry Clark
- May 24, 2022
- 2 min
Good thoughts vs bad thoughts
I find that I get in my own head sometimes, and that can be a lonely place to be but it can also be a reckless place to be. Especially if I am consumed by negativity, it can be very hard to make good decisions. Without feedback, my thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and what I think I know, can get me into trouble quickly if I don’t stop them from taking over. Researchers have found that the average person has 50,000+ thoughts daily. And of the “daily” thoughts, a staggering 80% is
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Jerry Clark
- May 22, 2022
- 2 min
A bubbling cauldron of anxiety...
Have you found yourself in a misguided argument that got out of hand? Couples come into the office and they have been fighting all weekend about whose turn it was to turn out the light. “Well Jerry, it was her turn to shut off the light, I turned it out last night.” “Oh my gosh!" throwing her hands up. "No, no it wasn’t, I turned it out,” she will say exasperated. It can happen so easily and the thing that I see—it’s not really about the light?! [Blind Spot] I call it a 'bubb
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Jerry Clark
- May 16, 2022
- 2 min
Proud as a peacock
Proud as a peacock, I have heard it all my life. Struttin' your stuff because you are all that, supersize fries and coke. Often in my practice, I hear people who are operating out of pride and do not even know it. I will usually ask them, “Do you think that could just be your pride that is making that a problem?” And then lead them to look at the difference between pride and humility. Usually, the result is reflecting, sitting back, and taking it in…then it is stated, "Well,
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Jerry Clark
- May 12, 2022
- 2 min
Have to vs Get to
I was remembering a story from a few years back; I was picking up a friend from his dialysis treatments. When I got there I usually sat in the waiting room with the other dialysis patients. I began to meet many of them because they came at the same time on Wednesdays. I started to hear their stories. “I can’t empty my dishwasher anymore.” “I can’t reach the cabinets to put my dishes away.” “I can’t vacuum anymore or I sweep.” “I hate it when the wind blows, my trash cans go d
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Jerry Clark
- May 10, 2022
- 1 min
Differing perspectives
What do you see? There are two distinct ladies depicted here. The picture does not change. The illusion is of an old woman and the young woman. This is an amazing example of not 'right or wrong' but having a different perspective. Often, we desire to hang on to the truth we know, seeking to prove the other wrong, as opposed to graciously considering their differing perspective or point of view. [Blind Spot] Looking at conflicts from multiple points of view and perspectives ca
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Jerry Clark
- May 8, 2022
- 2 min
Secrets kill relationships
I say that if I am going to do anything—like spend money without discussing it first, have a private conversation with someone, go to a place that I should not go, give out information that I should not give out, look for stuff on the internet that I should not look at, I might as well plan on killing my relationships. If you are going to “secret anything” you are treading on thin ice. [Blind Spot] Secrets kill relationships. A secret is defined as something done, made, or co
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Jerry Clark
- May 5, 2022
- 1 min
Taking your temperature
Do you check the temperature of someone else to get a read on what is going on or what you allow in your life, your mind, your business, and your relationships? [Blind Spot] We need to learn to take our own temperature and figure out how we are doing regardless of how anyone else is acting. I don’t find out how I am doing by taking your temperature. Even if everyone is out of sorts or upset you can still be okay, not feel like you need to adjust to accommodate or allow them t
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Jerry Clark
- May 3, 2022
- 2 min
Giving too much
From doing, doing, doing, being the go-to person, never charging what you are worth, or the free shoulder for everyone to cry on, “giving too much” can lead to unhealthy parasitic relationships. Generally, givers are people who enjoy being asked if they can help and get satisfaction by giving. The most confounding characteristic of a giver is their inability to recognize “takers”; the people, situations, social structures, and institutions that pursue and attach to them. [Bli
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Jerry Clark
- May 1, 2022
- 2 min
Locus of Control
I was late for work because the traffic was sooooo bad… I did not get the promotion because the boss does not support me... We lost the game because the ump made awful calls… I cannot go to the movies because it is too expensive… OR... I was late for work because I did not allow for traffic… I did not get the promotion because I did not demonstrate what I was truly capable of… We lost the game because we did not play well…. I cannot go to the movies because I did not budget e
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